DO you think men actually look forward to their wedding?

[Crimson Dynamo]

Lets face it, its all about the bride and the poor bloke just tags along somewhat

I just heard a guy on the radio (dedication read out) saying he cant wait for his big day and I thought "my arse you big liar"

They are not interested in the dress, the meal, some poxy invite card etc

Its about time the whole bloated mess was simplified and shortened down and things like the awful speeches canned totally and the hen and stag do things

So do men look forward to a wedding or cant they wait for it to be over?

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[Niamh.]

Men are individuals LT so kind of a silly question to ask, I'm sure some men do and some men don't?

[Marsh.]

Depends on the bloke. Just like it depends on the woman.

My sister is married and did not want a big wedding. The thought of it repulsed her. She had a small wedding for family and close friends, and a nice day without the hassle and the second mortgage.

Don't stereotype people. :nono:

[Crimson Dynamo]

Men are individuals LT so kind of a silly question to ask, I'm sure some men do and some men don't?

have you ever come across one who does?

[Crimson Dynamo]

Depends on the bloke. Just like it depends on the woman.

My sister is married and did not want a big wedding. The thought of it repulsed her. She had a small wedding for family and close friends, and a nice day without the hassle and the second mortgage.

Don't stereotype people. :nono:

a modern woman!

[Niamh.]

have you ever come across one who does?

Yes, lots

[Marsh.]

Have you proposed to TL? :clap1:

[Toy Soldier]

I was excited about mine but we did it really small, just immediate family and close friends. Civil ceremony and then a meal at a little hotel in the middle of nowhere. I think there were about 20 people there including us and the kids :joker:.

We were planning a much bigger wedding when we were younger, had a place booked and everything, then baby no.1 came into existence and we cancelled it all because of the expense. She was 4 by the time we actually got married. In some ways I regret not just going through with the original planned wedding, but also, I hate being the center of attention in a large group of people so I wasnt looking forward to that aspect at all.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Have you proposed to TL? :clap1:

I have not

:oh:

and I have 2 daughters

:oh:

[Cherie]

I hate weddings, we had a smallish affair by Irish standards about 70 people I wouldn't do it again if I could go back in time, it was very stressful as we organised it from the UK and got married in Ireland, I would say Mr C wasn't that enamoured but he tagged along with it all :laugh: I don't fancy the idea of being Mother of the Groom so hopefully my sons will stay true when they say they don't fancy the whole idea of getting hitched...

[Toy Soldier]

Just to add, going into DEBT for a wedding is just ****ing stupid, why would you want to start your marriage with debt? You'll accumulate plenty of that over time :hehe:... :bawling:.

Our originally planned wedding was coming in at about £10k but at the time we had about £6k between us, and my dad + her parents were going to kick in £2k each, so it would all have been paid for without debt. We cancelled and spent the £6k on baby stuff (over the course of a year+, tbf) that we probably did not need, so there's that, but then... I think everyone over-spends on their first born? :shrug:

[Mystic Mock]

I would never have a big wedding, I'm allergic to Stilton speeches and romances in general.

[Toy Soldier]

I prefer small weddings in general. Was at one last month (a gay wedding cos I'm a modern fella :hee: ) and they didn't even have family, just 20 close friends, but they booked out part of a stunning boutique hotel and it was better than any "big wedding" I've been to :shrug:. They served venison. It was perfect and bloody (literally :smug: ) amazing. When weddings are catering 150+ people you inevitably get dry, luke-warm chicken and microwave mash :bawling:.

[Niamh.]

I was excited about mine but we did it really small, just immediate family and close friends. Civil ceremony and then a meal at a little hotel in the middle of nowhere. I think there were about 20 people there including us and the kids :joker:.

We were planning a much bigger wedding when we were younger, had a place booked and everything, then baby no.1 came into existence and we cancelled it all because of the expense. She was 4 by the time we actually got married. In some ways I regret not just going through with the original planned wedding, but also, I hate being the center of attention in a large group of people so I wasnt looking forward to that aspect at all.

In hindsight if I were to do it again I would have ****ed off somewhere sunny with just close friends and family. I mean I enjoyed my wedding and all but I think it would have been more relaxed and more about what it's supposed to be about with a smaller more intimate affair

[Marsh.]

I have not

:oh:

and I have 2 daughters

:oh:

Omg, THREE AMAZING dresses to pay for! :amazed:

[bots]

i find traditional weddings unbearable. People invited in case someone ends up offended or because they gave a gift ... then when you get them all in the same room, the long lost relatives resurrect decades old arguments :laugh:

I'm all for the very small group weddings, where it actually means something special to those that attend.

[Ashley.]

We're not bloody forcing them to marry us!

[Niamh.]

We're not bloody forcing them to marry us!

We are in LTs world Ashley, don't ya know

[Beastie]

The man traditionally asks his partner do they want to get married. Don't bother asking if you are not going to be excited about it. It might make your partner excited but you got to be excited too otherwise what's the point in getting married?

[Crimson Dynamo]

The man traditionally asks his partner do they want to get married. Don't bother asking if you are not going to be excited about it. It might make your partner excited but you got to be excited too otherwise what's the point in getting married?

Just to keep them happy?

i say that in jest but there is often a lot of truth in humour..

[Niamh.]

Just to keep them happy?

i say that in jest but there is often a lot of truth in humour..

Well I think you have a very old fashioned, out dated view on life LT. My best friend got married this year purely because her partner wanted to, she didn't really care about getting married :shrug: I certainly wouldn't have wanted to marry someone who didn't want to marry me.

[Marsh.]

Just to keep them happy?

i say that in jest but there is often a lot of truth in humour..

Well more fool you for doing things just to please other people. :oh:

[bots]

I think LT is going back to memories of the 80's

[Livia]

I think men enjoy their wedding day so long as it's not ridiculous and they're not marrying a Bridezilla. It strikes me that some women spend a lot of time thinking about the wedding and making it perfect but spend less time thinking about the actual marriage.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Well more fool you for doing things just to please other people. :oh:

:fist:

im a people pleaser


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[Niamh.]

:fist:

im a people pleaser


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in real life only I presume :hehe:

[Strictly Jake]

Yep I looked forward to miss each and I enjoyed it. Although the in laws are pretty horrendous to the groom leading up to a wedding at every wedding I think

[Niamh.]

Yep I looked forward to miss each and I enjoyed it. Although the in laws are pretty horrendous to the groom leading up to a wedding at every wedding I think

Not true at all, why would you think that?

[Crimson Dynamo]

Im going to the funeral of the chap who played bagpipes at my wedding at the weekend as it goes :sad:

[Marsh.]

Im going to the funeral of the chap who played bagpipes at my wedding at the weekend as it goes :sad:

At least he survived longer than the marriage!

ba-dum-tsh!

[Oliver_W]

gayboys sometimes marry each other, so I guess at least some look forward to it!

[thesheriff443]

A marriage used to be a life sentence or until one killed the other one but now days marriage can be over before it’s begun.

I think bigamist like doing it.

[Maru]

Men, like women, do whatever they damn well please. Though I think weddings are overrated in general and not for everyone. We skipped on the big bash and did a small court "wedding" with only the closest of people who were the most important to us as witnesses. We had a family gathering afterwards at a restaurant with other loved ones and this was enough for us. :love:

We took the money we saved and used it to move back to my hometown... our logic, we were pursuing the move for a better life and we can always make up for it later on. I'm particularly very family-oriented (that includes close friends for me), but it would've felt ridiculous for us to go into debt for a few days celebration when we could've used that expense to go after a long-term dream...

My husband though... he is the life of the party (a party full of geeks, but still)... he's also very romantic and he would've liked the opportunity to make over the top gestures I think. Something I ever require of him, but it's that's his way... his other male friends have had weddings and he loves to come up with ideas they can all collaborate on to make it more interesting and make a statement.

One of our closest friends, they love comics and his fiance (now wife) love The Joker & Harley Queen... they have that "theme" going privately, so we had thought to make some knives with both engraved with a Joker/Harley vector graphic... the engravers loved the idea... but yeah, I don't think romantic gestures are limited to women... in fact, I think men, especially the crowd we hang around, tend to be more romantic than the women... his wife didn't want a wedding at all... they were initially going to be in a group wedding (a Vietnamese party), but his parents weren't respectful of his wife's choices and so he decided to opt for a wedding at a church instead... it was beautiful :love: