[Crimson Dynamo]

Lets face it, its all about the bride and the poor bloke just tags along somewhat

I just heard a guy on the radio (dedication read out) saying he cant wait for his big day and I thought "my arse you big liar"

They are not interested in the dress, the meal, some poxy invite card etc

Its about time the whole bloated mess was simplified and shortened down and things like the awful speeches canned totally and the hen and stag do things

So do men look forward to a wedding or cant they wait for it to be over?

[Niamh.]

Men are individuals LT so kind of a silly question to ask, I'm sure some men do and some men don't?

[Marsh.]

Depends on the bloke. Just like it depends on the woman.

My sister is married and did not want a big wedding. The thought of it repulsed her. She had a small wedding for family and close friends, and a nice day without the hassle and the second mortgage.

Don't stereotype people.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Men are individuals LT so kind of a silly question to ask, I'm sure some men do and some men don't?

have you ever come across one who does?

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Depends on the bloke. Just like it depends on the woman.

My sister is married and did not want a big wedding. The thought of it repulsed her. She had a small wedding for family and close friends, and a nice day without the hassle and the second mortgage.

Don't stereotype people.

a modern woman!

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

have you ever come across one who does?

Yes, lots

[Marsh.]

Have you proposed to TL?

[user104658]

I was excited about mine but we did it really small, just immediate family and close friends. Civil ceremony and then a meal at a little hotel in the middle of nowhere. I think there were about 20 people there including us and the kids .

We were planning a much bigger wedding when we were younger, had a place booked and everything, then baby no.1 came into existence and we cancelled it all because of the expense. She was 4 by the time we actually got married. In some ways I regret not just going through with the original planned wedding, but also, I hate being the center of attention in a large group of people so I wasnt looking forward to that aspect at all.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Have you proposed to TL?

I have not



and I have 2 daughters

[Cherie]

I hate weddings, we had a smallish affair by Irish standards about 70 people I wouldn't do it again if I could go back in time, it was very stressful as we organised it from the UK and got married in Ireland, I would say Mr C wasn't that enamoured but he tagged along with it all I don't fancy the idea of being Mother of the Groom so hopefully my sons will stay true when they say they don't fancy the whole idea of getting hitched...

[user104658]

Just to add, going into DEBT for a wedding is just ****ing stupid, why would you want to start your marriage with debt? You'll accumulate plenty of that over time ... .

Our originally planned wedding was coming in at about Ł10k but at the time we had about Ł6k between us, and my dad + her parents were going to kick in Ł2k each, so it would all have been paid for without debt. We cancelled and spent the Ł6k on baby stuff (over the course of a year+, tbf) that we probably did not need, so there's that, but then... I think everyone over-spends on their first born?

[Mystic Mock]

I would never have a big wedding, I'm allergic to Stilton speeches and romances in general.

[user104658]

I prefer small weddings in general. Was at one last month (a gay wedding cos I'm a modern fella ) and they didn't even have family, just 20 close friends, but they booked out part of a stunning boutique hotel and it was better than any "big wedding" I've been to . They served venison. It was perfect and bloody (literally ) amazing. When weddings are catering 150+ people you inevitably get dry, luke-warm chicken and microwave mash .

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

I was excited about mine but we did it really small, just immediate family and close friends. Civil ceremony and then a meal at a little hotel in the middle of nowhere. I think there were about 20 people there including us and the kids .

We were planning a much bigger wedding when we were younger, had a place booked and everything, then baby no.1 came into existence and we cancelled it all because of the expense. She was 4 by the time we actually got married. In some ways I regret not just going through with the original planned wedding, but also, I hate being the center of attention in a large group of people so I wasnt looking forward to that aspect at all.

In hindsight if I were to do it again I would have ****ed off somewhere sunny with just close friends and family. I mean I enjoyed my wedding and all but I think it would have been more relaxed and more about what it's supposed to be about with a smaller more intimate affair

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

I have not



and I have 2 daughters

Omg, THREE AMAZING dresses to pay for!

[bots]

i find traditional weddings unbearable. People invited in case someone ends up offended or because they gave a gift ... then when you get them all in the same room, the long lost relatives resurrect decades old arguments

I'm all for the very small group weddings, where it actually means something special to those that attend.

[Ashley.]

We're not bloody forcing them to marry us!

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Ashley.

We're not bloody forcing them to marry us!

We are in LTs world Ashley, don't ya know

[Beastie]

The man traditionally asks his partner do they want to get married. Don't bother asking if you are not going to be excited about it. It might make your partner excited but you got to be excited too otherwise what's the point in getting married?

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Beastie

The man traditionally asks his partner do they want to get married. Don't bother asking if you are not going to be excited about it. It might make your partner excited but you got to be excited too otherwise what's the point in getting married?

Just to keep them happy?

i say that in jest but there is often a lot of truth in humour..

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

Just to keep them happy?

i say that in jest but there is often a lot of truth in humour..

Well I think you have a very old fashioned, out dated view on life LT. My best friend got married this year purely because her partner wanted to, she didn't really care about getting married I certainly wouldn't have wanted to marry someone who didn't want to marry me.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

Just to keep them happy?

i say that in jest but there is often a lot of truth in humour..

Well more fool you for doing things just to please other people.

[bots]

I think LT is going back to memories of the 80's

[Livia]

I think men enjoy their wedding day so long as it's not ridiculous and they're not marrying a Bridezilla. It strikes me that some women spend a lot of time thinking about the wedding and making it perfect but spend less time thinking about the actual marriage.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Well more fool you for doing things just to please other people.

im a people pleaser