Alright, darling?

[Alf]

Do you see it as flattery or being demeaning?



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[Crimson Dynamo]

I call my daughters darling as in if they send me another pic of them on a night out I reply "Lovely darling" (as i am not allowed to reply with just a thumbs up)

But I would never refer to a lady i did not know as love, darling, mate, hun.

Im not sure what Id say if i was trying to attract say a women's attention if they had dropped a tenner or maybe if i had dropped my wallet and they came up and said "you dropped this" or some such thing?

With a man Id say "Pal"

[bots]

i say "excuse me" when trying to attract anyones attention and just say it louder and louder until the person i want acknowledges my communication :laugh:

[Alf]

I always say "thanks love" when I'm being served by a female at the shops. It's not something I plan or think through, It just comes as a natural thing for me to do. I'm thanking her for her helpful service and I always grew up with words like "love" "darling" and "sweetheart" being a pleasent thing and a compliment.

[arista]

Yes Good Clip Alf


Good on Mercy on the New News Channel.

[user104658]

I wouldn't do it personally and I think it's something that's outdated, so not something I'd encourage. On the other hand I don't think older people who do it are INTENDING to be demeaning in any way and when it's "habitual speak" it's not necessarily as simple as consciously not doing it, it probably just comes out, so I'm not looking at old folks who use these terms and thinking "ugh how awful".

Up here it's "hen", of course :joker:.

[Crimson Dynamo]

i mean im offended by bro and dude as it just sounds ridiculous

even "Guys" sounds a bit iffy

[user104658]

i mean im offended by bro and dude as it just sounds ridiculous

even "Guys" sounds a bit iffy

I used to get the occasional "you're a gentleman and a scholar" which I quite enjoyed as it is obviously accurate.

I also had an elderly fellow tell me that I could have been "A star of the silver screen" which is honestly one of the best compliments I've ever received.

[rusticgal]

....it means my husband wants something :laugh:

[Zizu]

I always say "thanks love" when I'm being served by a female at the shops. It's not something I plan or think through, It just comes as a natural thing for me to do. I'm thanking her for her helpful service and I always grew up with words like "love" "darling" and "sweetheart" being a pleasent thing and a compliment.


Same here Alf .. I still use ‘lovely’ or ‘darlin’ on a daily basis - never had a issue .

Guys just get ‘bud’ .

I’m dreadful with names .


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[thesheriff443]

I don’t use it on strangers
I get called it a lot and sweetheart and love normally billy older women
If you come across as polite and friendly then people will say it to you and if you use some place regularly

[Alf]

I wouldn't do it personally and I think it's something that's outdated, so not something I'd encourage. On the other hand I don't think older people who do it are INTENDING to be demeaning in any way and when it's "habitual speak" it's not necessarily as simple as consciously not doing it, it probably just comes out, so I'm not looking at old folks who use these terms and thinking "ugh how awful".

Up here it's "hen", of course :joker:.Who gets to decide if something is outdated or not? Could I declare Coca Cola outdated and nobody is allowed to drink it anymore?

[Cherie]

It doesn't bother me if it is used in a kind way, when it is used aggressively as can be done on forums then just no...

[AnnieK]

I don't really care what people call me - it takes a lot for me to get personally offended over things like that

[user104658]

Who gets to decide if something is outdated or not? Could I declare Coca Cola outdated and nobody is allowed to drink it anymore?

Nobody "declares" it, times and trends change, that's just what happens :shrug:.

[Alf]

Nobody "declares" it, times and trends change, that's just what happens :shrug:.But nobody can stop it, nobody can stop me saying "love" or "darling" so what they're moaning about is pointless.

I've just been called "love" by the woman serving me in the bakers. I returned the compliment. The World kept turning.

[user104658]

But nobody can stop it, nobody can stop me saying "love" or "darling" so what they're moaning about is pointless.

I've just been called "love" by the woman serving me in the bakers. I returned the compliment. The World kept turning.

No one has said anything about "stopping" anyone, I said I find it a bit outdated (old-fashioned might have been a better word) and also that it's not something I'd encourage which is again purely a statement of personal opinion.

[rusticgal]

But nobody can stop it, nobody can stop me saying "love" or "darling" so what they're moaning about is pointless.

I've just been called "love" by the woman serving me in the bakers. I returned the compliment. The World kept turning.


Its a term of endearment in most cases...to some people its part of their everyday conversation....just like the word 'Hen' up North. Personally I never use it in that terminology but many do.
It can be used in a demeaning way....by people who think they are clever and always think they are right...and thats the tell-tale sign :laugh:

[user104658]

Its a term of endearment in most cases...to some people its part of their everyday conversation....just like the word 'Hen' up North. Personally I never use it in that terminology but many do.
It can be used in a demeaning way....by people who think they are clever and always think they are right...and thats the tell-tale sign :laugh:

Intention is important, though the most important thing is obviously respecting people's requests. i.e. if someone asks not to call them love/darling/hen/mate/pal or whatever else, people should obviously respect that, and if they were to continue after being asked to stop (and it wasn't obviously an accident/slipped their mind) then you have to assume it's pointed... at which point you can functionally regard it as an insult.

[Beso]

Women say it to men more often than men to women

[user104658]

Women say it to men more often than men to women

Link to those stats Parm?

[Alf]

i mean im offended by bro and dude as it just sounds ridiculous

even "Guys" sounds a bit iffy"Guy's" is very American. I think we picked it up off Sloth, from The Goonies.

[Beso]

Link to those stats Parm?

Have you never been called darling by a woman?

[user104658]

Have you never been called darling by a woman?

I don't know if I ever got a "darling". I got lots of "Ma honey". A lot of "son" from older ladies.

https://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m9spkxnq5o1qcsbyso1_r5_500.gif

From the older fellers it tended to be either "Big Man" or "Shagger" :joker:.

[edit] ... or less flattering things at other times. :umm2:

[Crimson Dynamo]

How not to speak to a wee lassie in Glasgow

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[Alf]

How not to speak to a wee lassie in Glasgow

DpnUurJvGWsIs that the same guy who I saw speaking Punjabi? I think it might have been in one from your YT thread.

[Beso]

I don't know if I ever got a "darling". I got lots of "Ma honey". A lot of "son" from older ladies.

https://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m9spkxnq5o1qcsbyso1_r5_500.gif

From the older fellers it tended to be either "Big Man" or "Shagger" :joker:.

[edit] ... or less flattering things at other times. :umm2:



As an old fellas, I'm going to have to call you shagger from now on.

I hope you dont mind.

[user104658]

How not to speak to a wee lassie in Glasgow

DpnUurJvGWs

These are set up like a comedy sketch - but the "Whit ye filmin'?" part is worryingly accurate :joker:. And a situation like that could literally go either way. He might try to take your phone... he might give you a 30 minute presentation on the history of Glasgow. Who knows! That's part of the charm!

[Crimson Dynamo]

These are set up like a comedy sketch - but the "Whit ye filmin'?" part is worryingly accurate :joker:. And a situation like that could literally go either way. He might try to take your phone... he might give you a 30 minute presentation on the history of Glasgow. Who knows! That's part of the charm!

"a wull kick yur c * n t in" is such a west coast thing

:joker:

[Nicky91]

mods, move this thread to Chat & Games pls


this isn't news

[user104658]

"a wull kick yur c * n t in" is such a west coast thing

:joker:


Thing is it’s not even a real threat of violence. It’s more just another way of saying “You’re annoying me a bit”.

[Cherie]

How not to speak to a wee lassie in Glasgow

DpnUurJvGWs

:joker:

[Beso]

Thing is it’s not even a real threat of violence. It’s more just another way of saying “You’re annoying me a bit”.

We say that a lot in the borders as well, regarding annoyance from mates.