WozMan |
29-07-2013 06:09 PM |
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Originally Posted by Ammi
(Post 6224250)
..hmm, yeah, maybe the racist thing was a bad analogy...and I understand what you're trying to say but the difference here is that those two people involved didn't really know each other well enough to know or presume to understand any sexual preferences/banter etc...and as you say they had both been drinking and things can get a bit silly when that happens but even if as you said, Hazel was a willing participant at the beginning..thinking it was all fun and a game..?...she didn't know how far Daley would go...she would presume that she was 'playing a game' with someone who has average boundaries, which would be a safe assumption, especially with so many cameras etc..but Daley overstepped the mark considerably and became threatening and quite openly so by holding her throat and talking about nutting her..
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I know it's old hat but a lot of people forget that they are living in each others pockets for weeks without end. They sleep in the same room, eat in the same room etc. They experience each other at every point in their daily life cycles and ONLY each other (the housemates) UNINTERRUPTED for weeks. Thier entire world becomes just a few people whereas in the real world we can have hundreds if not thousands of different people weaving in and out of our lives.
I believe the majority of what we saw that night was Hazel and Daley testing each other's boundaries and feeling out what was acceptable foreplay. e.g. Hazel pulling down Daley's boxers and Daley asking Hazel if she wanted him to 'go nuts' Hazel said yeah, do it, go for it etc. Also, before he put his hand on her throat she said 'it's ok, I'm not afraid of aggressive men'
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Originally Posted by Ammi
(Post 6224250)
don't you think that the 'average' person would find that extremely intimidating and aggressive and if you felt it was in any way acceptable in 'foreplay' you would have to know someone extremely well to know that...
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I completely agree that the average person would find that extremely intimidating and aggressive. I partly agree that for SOME people if you felt it was in any way acceptable in 'foreplay' you would have to know each other extremely well. I believe this is true for some people but not for others.
I am no saint and have had one night stands in my time, some of them kinkier than others. I think it depends on a lot of factors such as how comfortable both parties are with their sexuality, their bodies and their identities. It depends on how socially skilled both parties are and how well they read body language and understand the opposite sex etc. It also depends say on how horny the girl is and how determined she is to get her preferred type of foreplay, which would have been the case with Hazel IMHO.
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Originally Posted by Ammi
(Post 6224250)
it's particularly disturbing behaviour that he would do that in front of 'the nation' as well....
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I think that all that drink and the immediate situation of potential sex with a hot girl he had been flirting with for ages took over. I believe he was just very horny and completely thinking with 'little Daley'. The same for Hazel.
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Originally Posted by Ammi
(Post 6224250)
..but to me, she did look very concerned and frightened when she sat in the chair after he'd been called into the diary room..
...anyway yes...enjoy your sleep, it's been interesting hearing your views...
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To me this said it was the calling to the diary room that upset her. My read is that she was snapped back to the fact that this was, in fact, in front of 'the nation'. That she was frightened more so of the consequences to her reputation and career than anything Daley might do to her. That's my read.
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