Nicky is one of the most natural users (we're more than just "users" obvs) on the board. Not many people are going to advertise the most blunt of their personalities so visibly. I imagine with something like autism, the contention and difficulties with socializing irl, it makes sense that someone experiencing that level of inner contention can just seem to spill over onto TiBB...

So yeah I don't get that impression from Nicky at all. What else do most of us have on TIBB but our avid opinions.... that's pretty much what most forums is all about. Oh, and sexy avas and leveling our God-level gif skillz...

aw how lovely of you to say Maru :blush:

aw, good of you, Maru, but... in the chat threads every now and then Nicky likes to come up with short statements designed to annoy, which he then proceeds to laugh off :shrug: So it's not about any deeply held opinions, more like trolling for attention. Ask any chat regulars, they will tell you all about it :hee:

Come on man. It’s obviously not easy for Nicky.

You don’t make racist comments and then use autism as an excuse

Sorry to be blunt, but both you Redway and Maru don't come to chat threads much if at all. You don't know what I'm talking about.
The irony is that usually I'm defending Nicky in there while others have had enough.
Nvm, not sure it is on topic here. Plus we're not going to get to the bottom of it anyway.

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:oh: since when is my handicap a mere excuse


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Depression, I guess we have all been there, a form of mental illness definitely to a certain extent. A feeling of non worth so many things. My daughter had a lot of illnesses due to being disabled. She had the courage to overcome, she was strong and helped many others both in the animal kingdom and human.

Through my daughters life I went down, down down mentally but I overcame through meditation and spiritual books. I understand we are all spirit and sometimes we are our worst enemy for spirit is free.

Then I guess we have the failure of vitimins and substantial things for our brains and bodies. Birth problems ...... so many things to consider.

So much help to be found though, depending on the severity I would suggest listing our negative and our positives to see if it helps. I wrote everything down, got it out of my system, I survived.

We can only think for ourselves as we are the only one who really knows what we are going through so as I say help is always at hand.

I've seen borderline commentary said here already so it is not a stretch for me that those commentaries could cross lines. I tend to think the worst of TiBB rubs off onto others here in other negative ways. Not just Nicky, but just in general, this board can have that effect on how others treat each other here. Yes, including racism and vindictive/attention-seeking behavior which, which I think no illness or disposition here has a monopoly on. But in his defense, Nicky has always been the character chameleon. He picks up on traits and imo, it is like tries different things based on what others may say here, but in more literal ways. This is to good, bad, charming effect, etc... pick an adjective.. but it is not at all surprising the commentary could reach towards racial commentary with all the racial discussions that are ever-present on TiBB. So whatever was said wouldn't change my perception of him because of the way he has always fit in with the group.

On a personal note, my single mother is a perpetual child physically, emotionally, mentally... So what some will see as black&white, has always been a matter of comfort and convenience to me, because I've never had the choice but to force myself to understand odd behavior. She may very well be severely autistic, but she goes off the map if we suggest something mental health-related. My mother is also a character chameleon and I think that is very common with people who see social activities as more literal participate& reward cycles... online, it is like she is a character from all the shows she watch. That is all she actually does is watch media, especially talk shows and those court shows, and it forms most of her understandings of other people. If someone upsets her or wrongs her in a major way, they should go to jail or have ppl accost them in her mind... bc that is what happens on TV.

I spoke as his friend. Only asked him about it here bc he started posting about himself. :shrug:
But somehow don't think it will help if we drill this further.

that is such an insightful and well thought out post maru, i also think you have nailed nicky to a T....He is a great lad, someone i always enjoy talking to on here and has had nothing but kind words to say about people....

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aw thank you Parmy, same about you, i like your good sense of humour on here

Anyone got anything they want to add?

Taking questions about epilepsy and OCD in particular this week. Anyone got any questions?

Letting them wear their own clothes to school works an absolute treat for anxiety. :)

What are your thoughts on alcohol/drug use in relation to mental health? in particular in helping us through 'bad days' in our lives

Casual use or addiction?

You could start with addiction, though personally I think everyone suffers from mental health issues at stressful times of their lives, bereavement, divorce, exams, redundancy etc and can use either as a crutch to help them through

More bad than good things to say for that type of approach. I’d warn impulsive/suicidal people off cocaine in particular but ketamine and certain shrooms are supposed to help. I’d rather do them in a controlled lab environment if I was in that scenario though.

Anyone had any experiences with misophonia/selective sound sensitivity?

Can we make suggestion of topics you can cover

Sure.

Redway I hope you don't mind me asking and I hope I don't seem ignorant (as I've not seen this thread), but can I ask how you're informing people? Like is it information from online? Textbooks? Are you a medical professional? I'm just curious because you're not putting sources and you seem to know what you're on about