LT's AGONY COLUMN (3rd dilemma)
 

Every week I post a genuine issue from my bulging postbag and i invite the citizens of Tibb to reply with advice:

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Dear LT: 'How can I stop my husband holding court at parties?'

My husband and I used to be extremely sociable: we went out a lot, and kept an open house. Friends used to visit us almost every weekend. That has changed in the course of time.

I recently began to notice that my husband gesticulates too much at the parties we still occasionally attend. He does it as if according to a pattern.

First, he catches people’s attention and then holds that attention, raising his voice, speaking faster and faster, mobilising his hands to gestures, like tossing pancakes or throwing his arms like crucified Jesus. I believe he thinks his speeches, because that’s what they are, are extremely interesting: he tackles what I call “heavy problems”.

When he is in full flow, I notice that people look around trying to interrupt, change the subject or say something themselves. But no, my husband must be the leader of conversation.

I feel we are invited out less and less and worry it’s because friends don’t want to subject themselves to his arm-waving and speechifying.

How can I tell him to change his body language, to try to listen more and generally calm down?

Evita, Maidstone

I suggest never going out again, or if you do tying his hand behind his back

like tossing pancakes or throwing his arms like crucified Jesus.

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he sounds like your typical remainer

LT starting a TiBB Column :D

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I would suggest leaving him at home....

maybe the woman should stop obsessing and watching her husband and make an effort herself

she sounds like a right controlling witch:think:

Divorce him.:idc:

:oh:

she could start waving her arms about and knock him out

Dear evita....stop dressing like a frump when you go out with your husband, then his wandering hands may wander somewhere else.

wise counsel parmy

maybe its Boris's girlfriend?

Maybe she should for warn the guests that he has a medical problem and his arm flinging and loudness is involuntary :hehe:

:joker:

She might suggest her husband finds himself a hobby while she finds someone else to go to parties with.

Oh!... Oh!... She needs a gay mate. They're well turned out, stand their round, not afraid to dance and you don't have to **** them at the end of the evening.

she could send him to speakers corner

Hmmm... not sure she should be encouraging the "saying it out loud" thing.

Stand thier round.....yer having a laugh ain't ya. .


Not from m experience they don't. ..

It’s refreshing they go to parties together they need to go in the garden behind the shed and get giggy.

I got a gay friend who would kick the f out of most, your wrong if you think all gays are like those that go on bb.

From my experience...and that is all I can judge with.

A gay friend I have is hard as nails as well....tight as **** though.

id have thought that would be a good thing? :think:

Maybe she should stop being such a judgmental cow and realise that people probably are interested in what he is saying and realise that she is the dull one and the reason they get invited less and less is because she stands there all night looking grumpy giving evils to her husband who people like

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windmills arms around and shouts loudly at Jake

She could wear a blindfold and earplugs .... problem solved

Short sharp kick to the nuts would be the appropriate action to take, unless it’s lt, he would consider that as flirting.

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Dear LT: 'My girlfriend’s mother can’t look me in the eye' :omgno:


My girlfriend’s mother can’t look me in the eye I have been with my lovely
girlfriend for three years and we are extremely happy. Unfortunately whenever I
visit her parents’ house, there is always an air of hostility from her mother
who, on a good day will say hello, and on a bad day will say nothing at all.

I’ve wondered for a while what makes her so uncomfortable; I’d like to think
I’m just a normal kind and caring 25 year-old with a decent education and a
good career, although I think she struggles to accept that her daughter is in a
relationship with a girl.

What can I do to ease the tension and make her more comfortable towards me
?

Dear gay girl. You have probably hit the nail on the head yourself as to why her mother is so uncomfortable around you. Assuming this is her first relationship with a member of the same sex. Just be yourself and don't go OTT with PDA's. Hopefully the mum in question will come around. A lot depends on how much notice your girlfriend takes of what her mother thinks. Good luck.

Bumping this.....

Dilema 3
 

'Living in limbo has made me question whether my six-year relationship has a future'

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I am 26 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for six years. We met at university – we were in the same halls,
so we’ve lived together from day one of our relationship. Things have been great, but in the past 18 months doubts
about our future keep entering my mind. We are very honest with each other and we talk about these issues and
usually work through them.

Recently, though, a colleague told me he has feelings for me and kissed me. My boyfriend found out and says he has
come to terms with it, although he feels he can’t trust me any more.

Part of my gut tells me to keep our relationship going, to work at it because it can be great, and the other part
is saying you wouldn’t have kissed him back if you were happy.

We have been in limbo with our lives for a couple of years, uncertain about jobs and where to live. It might be
this limbo that is clouding my feelings too – I just don’t know.

We have said we will always be there for one another, I will never meet anyone like him and he’s doing nothing
wrong – it’s just my mind is set on experiencing life alone for a bit for the first time since I was 17, in the hope
I’ll be able to make the relationship work once I feel I’ve had that “me time”. By that time though, however
long it will be, he might have moved on.

Is it worth me being selfish for the risk of losing what might’ve been the best thing I ever had?

Fanny, York