How intense does your dislike for certain people go?
 

A basic fact of life is that you’re just going to have to cross paths with people you dislike very much from time to time but how strong can the actual feeling of hatred go in your case? Do you try and appreciate the supposed good in everyone or are you really not trying to suffer any fools?

ive not murdered anyone yet

"A basic fact of life is that you’re just going to have to cross paths with people you dislike very much"

nope

4th one down, but there doesnt have to be a good reason.

Someone has to do something REALLY bad for me to purely hate them, there have been a few.

Ditto. I like to draw a line under things where I can but there are certain things that I’ll probably never, ever forgive certain people for and I really don’t feel bad about feeling that way. People who continue to disrespect you in the most indefensible ways aren’t automatically entitled to your niceness or forgiveness.

Same , not many but i never wish to see or hear from them ever again.

Yup. The last people I added to my hate list were from 2021 and nothing’s changed in those two years. I wouldn’t piss on them if they were rotting in hell fire. Definitely don’t want to see any of those idiots again.

Yes be true to who you are , some people are so out for themselves and their narrative they'll throw friends or family under the bus.

And they’ll wonder why you keep giving them the cold shoulder every time you are misfortuned to see them, as if they don’t know what they did. It’s better when these things stay low-key though because if it becomes a big talking point you’ll be painted as the bully and the bad guy. They’re rarely capable of telling the full story and the foulness of what they did to and said about you. The people around them who know them (or at least think they do) but don’t know you (or maybe, maybe not, they know you a little bit but never really liked you) will be more inclined to go with their side of the story (because they just don’t know you) but I do believe that karma deals with those people when the time’s right.

Oh yes Karma always gets them eventually :cheer2:

Hopefully. The battle’s ultimately the Lord’s so sometimes you’ve just got to trust that God will deal with them mercilessly (and I mean mercilessly) when the time comes.

I told my brother that I hoped God struck him down for what he and my sister in law did, and I meant every word.

I don’t blame you, Kate. There are probably people out there who think I low-key dislike them for various reasons (I’ll admit I can be quite flakey when it comes to the timing of what I say I’ll do and that can let people down) but I genuinely have nothing but love for those people and I’m always going to hold my hands up and admit if I’m genuinely the one in the wrong (which I can be, just as we all can be). But that’s a completely different situation from actually hating on people who really did you dirty and when that line’s crossed that’s it. Maybe God will take pity on them but as far as my own good books are concerned they’re toast and probably always will be. I’m a very easy-going, friendly sort of person naturally but when it comes to people I genuinely hate I’m never going to pretend that I wish then anything but bad tidings. All it’s within my hands to do is just leave well alone and keep that distance (I leave revenge to God) but I don’t wish people like that well at all.

And listen, I’m really sorry you had such a bad experience with your brother and sister-in-law. It sounds like they were horrendously in the wrong.

I hope so..

A nemesis of mine from the early 80s was diagnosed throat cancer, he was given 3 months to live...8 bloody months ago.

They really were Sam. They took my mums ashes and scattered them without me and my son. They raided my mums jewellery box and took all her valuables despite the fact that I'd been left those things in her will.

I can’t even imagine how tough that must have been for you.

I'm waaay too chill and meditate too much to hold onto hate :joker: I don't give such things the headspace.

I’m extremely chill ordinarily but when it comes to having a valid reason to hate someone I’m one of those people who just doesn’t let it go.

One might be inclined to ask you if you believe that's a productive use of your headspace?

Plenty of other things, no doubt, but when someone crosses the line it’s just another thing that sticks. If you’re the sort of person who just moves on and kicks people like that out of your head completely, more power to you.

Outbursts of irrationsl hatred when exploded into a pillow costs you thousands in la, for an hour long session.

It must help the mind and soul.:shrug:

I tend to confront people who I feel have wronged me, but maybe I'm lucky in that I've not been on the receiving end of anything that bad (yet), so it could be argued I've not had to opportunity to really seethe.

It might be that. Possibly.

I know there’s a crusty cynicism about me that pops up here-and-there but by-and-large I’m a die-hard lover of humankind (if quite a reserved one) and very easy-going interpersonally for the most-part. It’s not like I take pleasure in hating on people but people like me and Kate kind of have been on the receiving end of things that really were *that* bad and when you get to that point you’re going to be a lot more jaded and bitter against people who really did a number on you. It’s not always that obvious but there comes a point where you lose every last shred of respect and affection you might’ve had for that person and ultimately all these things are experiences that often stick, inasmuch as you’d probably rather forget.

As long as you ain't hurting anyone else, violent outbursts of hatred are as good as an outburst of crying.

Infact they are better cause nobody is gonna slap your face and tell you to pull yourself together.

No, we ain’t hurting nobody. Just drawing the line when enough’s enough.

Do you know the people you hate?

Just asking cause the people I hate the mostly dont have names.

To explain that, and to be open as **** to strangers.(it helps for some strange reason)

When my son died in 2012 at a young age, A website called stupid deaths feautered his death because it made the national papers in scotland

My morbidness made me look, and well..you can imagine the hatred I've felt ever since.


He died taking legal highs, but the papers picked up on it because his twitter feed was him bragging about going out on that fateful night to take them.

That sounds like such a rough ordeal (involving your son). Is there anything you do to help you when the grief and resentment hits (drinking whiskey doesn’t count, let’s be honest)?

But in my case they have names, yeah. I know exactly who they are.

Let's just say I cant swing a punch like I used to, so my face isn't as handsome as it once was.

But that was in the past, things are improving now. Om lucky I've never had a very close friend that I've ended up hating, they've all been really cool.

Are you comfortable talking about what they did?

Don’t have time for hatred. If someone pisses me off to the point that I ‘hate’ them I don’t bother with them. No point wasting time on them.

I’ve been involved in enough nonsense over the past 16 years to have reached that point but generally I give people a chance. I’m a people-person at heart so I can’t let cynicism from bad past experiences get in the way of maintaining/making connections. But the general public can be annoying.

Let’s talk about Strawberry Shortcake yoghurt and how underrated it is for a minute (on a more positive note).

I'm one of those weirdos who tends to actually quite like the people I argue with/clash with more :joker:

Weirdo indeed.

I protected two of the people involved/on my hate-list so much in the end but they didn’t deserve a single iota of it. Sometimes I wish I would’ve just left them to the wolves and let them take a good beating. It wasn’t my mess to sort out (it was just one of the many issues with them) and the stress of it all affected my health badly but without me it’s unlikely that one of them would still be alive. I regret that now. He thought it was all fine and that no-one wanted to hurt him but they did. They did. He was just too stupid to take accountability and step up to the truth. You can go off on a reactive tirade and blame everyone but yourself for all your problems and stupid mishaps but it’ll all fall back on you eventually. Some of them might come back with a flimsy apology and “I would not have apologised if I didn’t mean it” but if you were that sorry in the first place you wouldn’t have done it and damaged someone’s year at all. And I’m probably always going to hate them for everything they did.

My father would always pull me up if i used the word hate, he told me you must never hate anyone

If I dislike someone that much, I don't waste any kind of emotion on them, not even hate. They're just dead to me.

I can get that.

I like taking a contrary position when people start bleating on about politics, and it's much more engaging when people bite back instead of saying "fair enough" or being wounded that someone thinks differently.