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Originally Posted by Garfie
I felt it was sad, rather than uncomfortable, and felt it was better for Cameron to discuss things with him directly, rather than bitching behind his back. Those sorts of conversations are always difficult to have, but sometimes you just have to be honest, and I give Cameron credit for having the courage to tackle the subject.
I got the impression that the lack of trust he spoke about stemmed from Cian's drunken comments about fancying Cameron, and either Cameron (rightly or wrongly) feeling that he'd almost been outed by this before he was ready, or feeling that Cian was pushing things further than Cameron was comfortable with as soon as he admitted to him he was gay.
Cian has obviously been hurt by this, and I imagine he felt even more hurt, isolated and alone than he already did as a result; I think it will have upset him greatly as I don't believe his intentions were wrong either, but just a drunken mistake which has made him lose the trust of someone he genuinely cared about. I feel part of his upset came from regret.
I don't think Cameron wanted to hurt Cian during this conversation either- he'd recognised that Cian was not feeling good and was isolating himself, and I think he wanted to explain things from his point of view. I think his motives were genuine.
All in all, I think this is just one of those difficult and sad situations in which two people cause each other pain with no intention of doing so. But poor Cian is obviously hurting badly at the moment, and that is hard to watch. I just hope that someone in there is able to offer him a little bit of comfort.
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Good post but I don't really feel Cameron has a real reason for his lack of trust. It's not like Cian made a pass at him or anything like that. Had Cameron not been gay, Cian could still have fancied him so I don't see that telling him he has a crush is outing him, though it was patently obvious to everyone watching that Cameron coming out was coming. I think he should be flattered rather than making it into something bad or wrong. The problem with Cameron is he is letting Lewis paranoia run him too so he sees ulterior motives in everything other people in the house say or do. I feel sorry for Cian, I don't think he deserves to be a person is not trusted.
If anything I think Lewis pushed Cameron into outing himself, ready or not.