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Originally Posted by bitontheslide
it takes me a while to get riled, but when i do .... boom .... but i also calm down very quickly  |
That’s where I’m different. I don’t get outwardly hot or riled easily but on the contrary I am definitely, definitely the sort of person to hold a grudge and I don’t forgive easily (if ever). Just one disrespectful comment or needless breach of trust or confidence is all it takes. In my book it’s hard to come back from that. I’d actually rather hate someone forever. But that’s bitterness, not volatility or heat-of-the-moment anger. Stock apologies and misunderstandings are just a natural part of life but as far as I’m concerned that’s something completely different (nobody’s perfect anyway). What’s more-or-less unforgivable is people crossing boundaries for nothing other than disrespect’s sake, deliberate gaslighting and onwards. Not just the general apologetics hubbub of life (and God knows I’ve had to apologise my fair share of times). I’m nice enough to understand and meet people where they’re at and uncompromising enough to never let it go if it’s that deep. I’m reasonable about it but a lot of people aren’t even trying to be reasonable, because they obviously don’t value you at all. You meet such people in the gutter and leave them there.