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Originally Posted by AnnieK

Me too.

I had the stereotypical ginger temper when I was younger and could go from 0-100 temper points in the click of a finger but have learned to control it over the years. But I am still fairly hot headed if I am riled.

it takes me a while to get riled, but when i do .... boom .... but i also calm down very quickly

[Urban Cragou]

I’m just trying to imagine Bradley Branning (another ginger) blowing up without falling over and accidentally cutting himself with glass. I don’t think I can.

[Rustic bauble]

It’s rare…but if I’m really wound up I can do a mini Nikki graham…

[Urban Cragou]

https://youtu.be/BF9xEO_6pgk

I fully feel like Nikki some days. Especially on Mondays. Words cannot describe the HATE I have for Mondays and nothing can ever prepare me emotionally prepare me for their raggedy-ness (everything seems to go wrong). If it was a person punching it in the face would be the least thing I could do to it. I don’t rate Sunday evenings either but they’re nothing like the hell that is the beginning of another long, draining week.

[Urban Cragou]

Originally Posted by bitontheslide

it takes me a while to get riled, but when i do .... boom .... but i also calm down very quickly

That’s where I’m different. I don’t get outwardly hot or riled easily but on the contrary I am definitely, definitely the sort of person to hold a grudge and I don’t forgive easily (if ever). Just one disrespectful comment or needless breach of trust or confidence is all it takes. In my book it’s hard to come back from that. I’d actually rather hate someone forever. But that’s bitterness, not volatility or heat-of-the-moment anger. Stock apologies and misunderstandings are just a natural part of life but as far as I’m concerned that’s something completely different (nobody’s perfect anyway). What’s more-or-less unforgivable is people crossing boundaries for nothing other than disrespect’s sake, deliberate gaslighting and onwards. Not just the general apologetics hubbub of life (and God knows I’ve had to apologise my fair share of times). I’m nice enough to understand and meet people where they’re at and uncompromising enough to never let it go if it’s that deep. I’m reasonable about it but a lot of people aren’t even trying to be reasonable, because they obviously don’t value you at all. You meet such people in the gutter and leave them there.

[Oliver_W]

Originally Posted by Redway

general apologetics

General Apologetics!

[Urban Cragou]

Originally Posted by Oliver_W

General Apologetics!

Which are wasted on people who just choose to be difficult. People like that will have you apologising even when you're not actually the one in the wrong.