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Originally Posted by CharlieO
I generally try to set myself up for rejection/disappointment because it just tends to be easier that way.
I used to feel like I needed to be part of the 'in crowd' but definitely no anymore. I'd prefer to be anonymous/invisible than the coolest, most talked about person.
I do fear it thats why I try get myself into as little possible rejection situations ever.
And I do not handle it well, I do let it eat away at me when it does happen but thank god its not often.
I also find it hard to trust people and I'm always negative because if you don't establish deep connections with people you can never really felt like you have lost anything when they inevitably disappoint you.
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That's a shame you feel that way. You have to remember though - one pretty important thing Charlie. Being rejected doesn't mean that the reason for rejection is 'you' - it could be the other person who has the issues - rather than you. Don't always view it as a negative thing - sometimes it's less to do with you - and more to do with the 'aim' of the other person.
ie: people who take, take, take and never give: you're better being rejected by that sort - because they have a connection with you for all the wrong reasons (not the best of examples I guess, but one that might make sense?).
A lot has to do with confidence - you're still fairly young and I'm pretty sure you're confidence will grow. I'm also pretty sure we were all of the same mindset at the same age (I know I was).
PMA and all that Charlie boy, PMA.
