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Originally Posted by MarcusMel
How do parents handle a child that has found saying '*uck' gets them a lot of attention? Simple the attention reward is withdrawn and they stop. I suggest that your friend is attention seeking with his behaviour. Also the lesson he teaches is that the person he is upsetting has a belief that actually causes them a problem and would do well to learn to relax that belief.
Stress causes illness, relaxation and happiness causes health.
Lao Tzu - only your enemies will show you where you are weak.
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If only it were that simple. One of the things my friend did was tell a mutual friends girlfriend about all the women her boy friend had slept with behind her back. Still think its everyone else who's got the problem?. No its him who has the problem and we've tried every approach. We've tried subtlety, we've threatened him. Nothing gets thru cuz as I have said, I've known this guy since he was 11 so I've watched him turn into this person. Its not attention he's after, he genuinely find upsetting people funny. Hence why I think he's a borderline psycho. That makes him great company but what about when he upsets the wrong person.
I am a believer in behaviour modification. If something isnt working then you try something else. If no one gets you then its you who has the problem not everyone else.