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Originally Posted by GiRTh

People can only ever be themselves? I dont accept that as an excuse for obnoxious behavior. I have a friend who I believe is a bit of a pyscho. He like upsetting people. He genuinely finds it funny to say the one thing that he knows will upset someone. But he's only being himself? And I've know him since he was 11 so I know what he's like and I actually really like him. Is it up to him to change or everyone else to just accept his very distasteful banter even though he has upset many people over the years.

How do parents handle a child that has found saying '*uck' gets them a lot of attention? Simple the attention reward is withdrawn and they stop. I suggest that your friend is attention seeking with his behaviour. Also the lesson he teaches is that the person he is upsetting has a belief that actually causes them a problem and would do well to learn to relax that belief.

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