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Originally Posted by lostalex
I agree that there is nothing wrong with parents or grandparents sharing their beliefs with their children/grandchildren as long as it's an open dialogue, and not just a lecture. Do you encourage your children/grandchildren to question things and make up their own minds though? or did you intentionally try to influence them by giving or withholding love? Most parents/grandparents reward children when they agree or withhold love and affection when they challenge or disagree. It's a very passive aggressive way of forming their beliefs, especially while they are young.
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To me Alex love is unconditional and should never be withheld from a child. It is because of this my husband and I have had two of our grandchildren living with us for the last 12years. It was difficult to begin with with the eldest as she had taken the brunt of it all but we have got there. They have their own minds and believe that they can teach me old rope
They are very philisophical in their approach though and they believe in trying to be the adult when it comes to falling out with their friends. They do not always succeed but then one in particular takes herself to task.
I believe that whilst we can guide them there is something instilled in a lot of children. They question me and our conversations are interactive. They are their own masters.