[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Jules2

My parents always made me go to Sunday School but they never went themselves I think it was more to get my brother and I out of the way

I have never pushed religion or my beliefs down my children and grandchildrens throats but have often asked what they believe in. Surprisingly enough they have good ethics. Just talking and explaining to them over the years are well within the reach of parents and grandparents. Their own life experiences give them an understanding that if they touch a hotplate, it burns.

Nobody is dumb though if they believe in God it is their way in life. Whilst things maybe changing now, there are many old school who will still be dogmatic about the whys and wherefores of their beliefs. So long as they make allowances for all then it is truly fine.

I agree that there is nothing wrong with parents or grandparents sharing their beliefs with their children/grandchildren as long as it's an open dialogue, and not just a lecture. Do you encourage your children/grandchildren to question things and make up their own minds though? or did you intentionally try to influence them by giving or withholding love? Most parents/grandparents reward children when they agree or withhold love and affection when they challenge or disagree. It's a very passive aggressive way of forming their beliefs, especially while they are young.

[Jules2]

Originally Posted by lostalex

I agree that there is nothing wrong with parents or grandparents sharing their beliefs with their children/grandchildren as long as it's an open dialogue, and not just a lecture. Do you encourage your children/grandchildren to question things and make up their own minds though? or did you intentionally try to influence them by giving or withholding love? Most parents/grandparents reward children when they agree or withhold love and affection when they challenge or disagree. It's a very passive aggressive way of forming their beliefs, especially while they are young.

To me Alex love is unconditional and should never be withheld from a child. It is because of this my husband and I have had two of our grandchildren living with us for the last 12years. It was difficult to begin with with the eldest as she had taken the brunt of it all but we have got there. They have their own minds and believe that they can teach me old rope They are very philisophical in their approach though and they believe in trying to be the adult when it comes to falling out with their friends. They do not always succeed but then one in particular takes herself to task.

I believe that whilst we can guide them there is something instilled in a lot of children. They question me and our conversations are interactive. They are their own masters.