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Originally Posted by Lostie!
I don't really see how there's a difference in how they've behaved morally. Sure, one has broken a commitment (I don't dispute that), but the other has willingly partaken in that and so can't really have much of a problem with the idea of someone doing that (until it happens to them, I presume) so I just can't personally place them on any higher of a moral footing. 
You can't cheat all by yourself. There has to be someone else on the other end and that's why I think that other person deserves to be held accountable just as much (providing they knew, of course). |
I just think that even though both parties are accountable for what they're doing, it's a bigger leap to cheat on someone you love/someone you've made a commitment with, than it is to take part in breaking up someone's relationship and hurt someone you don't know. Neither of those things are 'right' but I have a hard time seeing them as equal. I was in a serious relationship and got cheated on and it was the most painful thing I've ever been through but I never really gave a second thought to the other guy... I dunno it's hard to put a ratio on how responsible someone is or what someone's morality is really, so thinking about it more I don't know where I stand on it exactly... but when it happened to me I blamed my ex entirely because the way I saw it was, even if they both wanted to sleep with each other, my ex was the one who should have tried harder not to, because he's the one who had put himself in a situation with me where he had that responsibility. And if you're going to take on a responsibility like committing yourself to another person, I don't think you can be judged in the same way as someone who hasn't, because the two people involved are in different situations. I don't know if I'm explaining it well. But he had extra choices basically. For example he could have broken up with me first but he decided not to. The 'other guy' didn't have that option. I just think it's different tbh.