[Z]

Just been chatting away to a friend on my course at uni about a girl on our course who flipped out and decided not to speak to any of us about a year and a half ago, and she's never made up with us... anyone want to share any stories about dramatic fall outs with friends?

I'll start with the one I mentioned above...

My uni course is now only 20 people and my group of friends on it at the time consisted of 9 people, almost half of the class. We moved to Germany in September 2011 and 3 of us were in close proximity to one another - two girls (R and C) and myself. Over the previous 2 years at uni, 8/9 of us had gotten to know each other through sharing personal stories and generally just having fun together. C had never really engaged with the group as a whole, choosing to remain in the background and not speaking much during social occasions, which had never been a problem because some people are like that in group situations (sometimes I am, sometimes I'm not) but when we moved to Germany and it was down to 3 of us, it all changed.

R and I would hang out just the two of us quite a lot because we were both homesick and would say as much, choosing to spend our time talking about home and going sightseeing to while the days away. C never once told us how she was feeling, she never invited us anywhere nor did she ever ask to be included. We didn't feel any sense of obligation towards her because she'd never really tried to get to know us before. Suddenly what was fairly innocuous, her being quiet in large groups, became irritating, because if you hung out with her, she would be borderline mute and you were acutely aware of the fact that the third person wasn't saying anything. We didn't invite her places because we didn't think she wanted to be invited anywhere, she didn't seem to show much of an interest in us at all. We thought maybe she was homesick, but when we asked her, she denied it and would go back to saying nothing.

Fast forward 5 months and it was R's birthday. R had friends coming over to visit especially; and she invited me because we're good friends. She felt conflicted about inviting C because she didn't want to lump me with her - nobody else from uni was invited because they all lived really far away, it was just R's friends from home and R's friends she had made in Germany. So she didn't invite her. Days later, C blocked us from Facebook and sent us an email telling us that we were "users" and "horrible people" because we didn't invite her anywhere. I replied to her, but she never sent one back. She later deleted most of the rest of the group from Facebook.

We've been back at uni since September 2012 and I apologised to her, that I didn't realise she was feeling left out because she'd never indicated that she felt that way and I felt horrible for causing that situation without realising it, but she never forgave me and she continues to mostly ignore all of us at uni which is a shame because it's such a small course and I don't believe myself to be a bad person. I apologised, even though I didn't have to, perhaps she didn't accept it because she knows that I don't really think I have anything to be sorry for. I did it out of courtesy because we had another 2 years of studying left together. My apology was genuine, I do feel bad for making her feel left out; but if only she had said something at the time instead of going from silence to pure rage, things could have been so different...

[Lee.]

My friend tried to drug me with a sedative on more than one occasion before I clicked on to what she was doing.. For reasons I don't really know, but I suspect she wanted to touch me. We've never spoken again.

[Z]

Originally Posted by Lee.

My friend tried to drug me with a sedative on more than one occasion before I clicked on to what she was doing.. For reasons I don't really know, but I suspect she wanted to touch me. We've never spoken again.

Woah that's intense!

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Lee.

My friend tried to drug me with a sedative on more than one occasion before I clicked on to what she was doing.. For reasons I don't really know, but I suspect she wanted to touch me. We've never spoken again.

was she cute?

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Lee.

My friend tried to drug me with a sedative on more than one occasion before I clicked on to what she was doing.. For reasons I don't really know, but I suspect she wanted to touch me. We've never spoken again.

wtf?

[Lee.]

It really was!

[Z]

Originally Posted by Lee.

It really was!

I think I'm quite a tolerant person until people try to project their personal problems onto me, then I'm really fiery and don't take any ****. I'm friends with a lot of people who have some serious personal issues and I'm good at helping people out with that kind of thing, but if someone projects their problem onto me and tries to blame me for something that's quite clearly their problem, I don't hesitate to terminate the friendship. Something like that though, that's really mental... trying to drug you! Crazy...

[Lee.]

Greg, it was so mental and unbelievable, I actually started to doubt my own sanity!

The last time she did it, I could feel myself falling asleep again and it had dawned on me what was happening.. I asked her to phone me a taxi which she did.. As I was getting drowsier, I realised the taxi wasn't coming and asked her to phone again. As she was speaking, I could hear the dialling tone on the phone.. She hadn't even phoned a taxi! I had told my then bf my suspicions, phoned him to come and get me and he phoned her when we got home and told her to stay the **** away from me.. That was the last time I saw her. I'm talking about my best friend btw!!

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Lee.

Greg, it was so mental and unbelievable, I actually started to doubt my own sanity!

The last time she did it, I could feel myself falling asleep again and it had dawned on me what was happening.. I asked her to phone me a taxi which she did.. As I was getting drowsier, I realised the taxi wasn't coming and asked her to phone again. As she was speaking, I could hear the dialling tone on the phone.. She hadn't even phoned a taxi! I had told my then bf my suspicions, phoned him to come and get me and he phoned her when we got home and told her to stay the **** away from me.. That was the last time I saw her. I'm talking about my best friend btw!!

Single White Female.

[Lee.]

Originally Posted by LemonJam

FRANS

(off topic but the final conversation I had with you on facebook the other night wasn't even me and I have no idea who it was haha)

I actually gathered that

Originally Posted by lostalex

was she cute?

If you find moustaches cute, then yeah

Originally Posted by 08marsh

Single White Female.

She actually moved out of town and got herself married within a few months.. She'd never had a boyfriend before. It was bizarre

[Verbal]

Originally Posted by Lee.

Greg, it was so mental and unbelievable, I actually started to doubt my own sanity!

The last time she did it, I could feel myself falling asleep again and it had dawned on me what was happening.. I asked her to phone me a taxi which she did.. As I was getting drowsier, I realised the taxi wasn't coming and asked her to phone again. As she was speaking, I could hear the dialling tone on the phone.. She hadn't even phoned a taxi! I had told my then bf my suspicions, phoned him to come and get me and he phoned her when we got home and told her to stay the **** away from me.. That was the last time I saw her. I'm talking about my best friend btw!!

I havent read the rest of the thread past this post, but tell me you told the Police?

[Verbal]

I havent spoken for more than a few hours collectively to someone I grew up with for years due to us falling out. This person has spread rumours about me and used...and still does use the Internet to attack me. It is for this reason I don't really want to go into much detail, because 'they' will have a field day if they realised where I am.
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Sounds like an amateur. Everyone knows you go straight to rohypnol and don't mess around with nytol.













Did I say that out loud?

[Lee.]

Originally Posted by Verbal

I havent read the rest of the thread past this post, but tell me you told the Police?

No I didn't at the time, it seemed so insane that I didn't think anyone would believe me. I didn't tell anybody apart from my bf and eventually told my mum and sister.. But even now I don't talk about it as I genuinely feel people might think I'm mental.. I mean, it IS menta?!

[Verbal]

Originally Posted by Lee.

No I didn't at the time, it seemed so insane that I didn't think anyone would believe me. I didn't tell anybody apart from my bf and eventually told my mum and sister.. But even now I don't talk about it as I genuinely feel people might think I'm mental.. I mean, it IS menta?!

This isnt her, is it?


That sounds like the act of someone who is seriously mentally imbalanced and a danger to society

[Lee.]

Originally Posted by Verbal

This isnt her, is it?


That sounds like the act of someone who is seriously mentally imbalanced and a danger to society

She never came across as dangerous! She was my closest friend, but had gone through a lot of family crap in the year leading up to this, so maybe it did send her a bit loopy?

[Kizzy]

Lee that's a bit cray, did you call the police?

[Lee.]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

Lee that's a bit cray, did you call the police?

No.. I thought about it, but thought they'd maybe think I was crazy! The last time I left her house, I considered taking my drink with me as I could actually see a layer of powder in the bottom of the glass (I reckon it was Nytol) but even if I'd taken that to the police, it wouldn't have proved anything .

[LemonJam]

I made a really close friendship in my first year of university. I ended up sleeping with her but then I got back with my ex-girlfriend and I was unaware that this girl still had feelings for me cos I'm a massive dick tbfh.

Long story short she dropped out of uni, converted to Islam and I haven't spoken to her for a few years. I miss her a lot tbh.

[Shaun]

Originally Posted by LemonJam

Long story short she dropped out of uni, converted to Islam

never try lemon jam folks

[Ammi]

..boringly, I don't think I've ever had a fall out with a real life friend...when I was very young I had a best friend who cheated with my then boyfriend but I wasn't really bothered and we didn't fall out... they ended up getting married/divorced through him cheating on her so all ended up being, I guess..predictable...

[Kizzy]

I thought that read I have a massive dick...

[LemonJam]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

I thought that read I have a massive dick...

[Z]

I had a friend in 5th year at school who started going out with this girl in the year below and he asked me what I thought and I said "I think she'll dump you because she thinks she's too good for you" and he got really offended (fair enough) and fell out with me, and then that's exactly what happened, she dumped him like a week later because he wasn't cool enough for her, so he resolved to never speak to me OR the rest of our group again, got with my ex-girlfriend to try and piss me off (I didn't care) and then totally changed his personality, style and appearance to fit in with a new group and we've never spoken to each other ever since. I find it quite funny now looking back, I was just being honest like any good friend should, but it wasn't the answer he wanted to hear... and he decided to never speak to me again because I was right.

[Lee.]