[Ronald.]

Hello forum

Something has been troubling my mind today . I think that my youngest daughter may be a lesbian . She's 16. She is spending a lot of time with a girl from school outside school . Whilst that is normal she has invited this girl over for a sleep over next week . When I said we would prepare the spare room she insisted that her friend would be staying in her room . Whilst this might be harmless I have noticed that her phone background wallpaper is her and a girl hugging .

I think she may be a lesbian and whilst I would support and still love her I am confused why she hasn't told me. Perhaps she isn't ready but I don't like the idea of her inviting a girl round if it's a partner . I would be the same if a boy was spending the night she likes .

My problem is that I don't want any funny business going on under my roof . But how do I know without asking her ? I want her to tell us when she is ready but I don't want them getting up to stuff under my roof .

Any advice ? Ron.

[Saph]

does she have any Mel C CDs?

[Ronald.]

Originally Posted by Saph

does she have any Mel C CDs?

No but she likes little mix . R.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by ronaldrogers

No but she likes little mix . R.

Jesy's thighs to put her off girls?

[T*]

Originally Posted by Saph

does she have any Mel C CDs?

Originally Posted by ronaldrogers

No but she likes little mix . R.

[Wizard.]

Originally Posted by Saph

does she have any Mel C CDs?

[Will.]

I'm lesbian

[Ronald.]

Originally Posted by Will.

I'm lesbian

Ha ha will you always know how to make a joke . Very funny! R.

[Calderyon]

Originally Posted by Will.

I'm lesbian

You can´t be as you are a boy. Only girls can be lesbians.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Calderyon

You can´t be as you are a boy. Only girls can be lesbians.

Bigotry is a sad thing.

[arista]

Originally Posted by Will.

I'm lesbian

in your dreams................

[Jay28jay2]

Don't pressure her in telling you the truth. She may just have found a good friend. If she does however come out to you then please try and support her as much as you can

[Ronald.]

Originally Posted by Jay28jay2

Don't pressure her in telling you the truth. She may just have found a good friend. If she does however come out to you then please try and support her as much as you can

I don't mind if she is a lesbian I am a very modern man . R.

[Niamh.]

Kids want to have sleep overs so they can stay up all night talking, there's no point in having a sleep over and staying in seperate rooms

[Ronald.]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Kids want to have sleep overs so they can stay up all night talking, there's no point in having a sleep over and staying in seperate rooms

Well as long as talking is the only thing they're getting up to! I just can't help but feel if this was a boy I would be cautious . Isn't it prejudice if I'm not cautious because it's a girl ? R.

She is only 16 after all

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by ronaldrogers

Well as long as talking is the only thing they're getting up to! I just can't help but feel if this was a boy I would be cautious . Isn't it prejudice if I'm not cautious because it's a girl ? R.

She is only 16 after all

I would say no tbh...my kids are really young so I am not sure how I would handle this, but I do not think I would be concerned if my daughter was overly friendly with a girl...where I do not think I would let boys sleep over. The main obvious reason for this is...girls fooling around with each other cannot result in pregnancy

Maybe she hasn't told you as she doesn't even know herself yet. I experimented with a girl at around the same age but I wouldn't say I was gay or anything. or maybe she hasn't told you as she is not actually gay. or maybe she is afraid of how you would react but the worst thing you could do here is push her on it. Ask yourself...does it really matter? She is 16...not a child. I do understand the 'not under my roof' attitudes, but..if you push that view too hard she will just go out shagging in public or find somewhere else to go...at least 'under your roof' you know she is safe?

[Rob!]

Well, look on the bright side. At least this puts your worries about her meeting boys on Tinder to bed

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Rob!

Well, look on the bright side. At least this puts your worries about her meeting boys on Tinder to bed

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Rob!

Well, look on the bright side. At least this puts your worries about her meeting boys on Tinder to bed

Don't mention beds

[Ronald.]

Originally Posted by Rob!

Well, look on the bright side. At least this puts your worries about her meeting boys on Tinder to bed

That's true . I'd rather she dated people from her school than strangers .

[Withano]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

I do understand the 'not under my roof' attitudes, but..if you push that view too hard she will just go out shagging in public or find somewhere else to go...at least 'under your roof' you know she is safe?

I think this is an important point, I didnt know how to say it without sounding like I was getting personal, but I do think its true.. you tell someone not to press the red button, what do they most want to do?

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Withano

I think this is an important point, I didnt know how to say it without sounding like I was getting personal, but I do think its true.. you tell someone not to press the red button, what do they most want to do?

Ron just noddng off to sleep, then through the paper thin walls hears his daughter banging away at that red button like it's whack-a-mole?

[Jordan.]

Ask what her opinion of P!nk is

[Cal.]

I don't think she is a lesbian but then again I don't know her. She just seems to be very close to her best friend!

[Greg!]

They're probably just good friends? I've never heard of a sleepover where people sleep in separate rooms so it doesn't mean anything that they're sharing a room