[arista]

There is a thread for this but I do not know
its name.
so merge it

The Mother was just on GMBHD
saying she phoned the Police.
But she wanted to protect her 14 year old.




I agree is tragic
but as a mother you are at fault , as well
you let him online
and did not supervise proper



He got 25 years in jail.

The mother has lost her son.



the Evil 19 year old killer is in the middle photo

[Send police and forensics, I've cut his throat': Chilling 999 call from
sadistic teenager who groomed boy, 14, he met in online game
then tied him up with duct tape and stabbed him to death]

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...#ixzz3OgQNnJqJ

[Angelika]

Teenagers are tricky!

Determined teenagers will find a way to do what they want, no matter how much supervision they are under. Its better to keep them talking and constantly compromising with parents on what they want to do. This isn't a foolproof solution but its better than constantly telling them "no." Parents need to be consistent and fair and treat children with respect and as thinking people. Teenagers are better than their parents and society give them credit for.

With teenagers its about demystifying the adult world and allowing them to satisfy their curiosity.

[smudgie]

Very difficult.
His mother had reported her sons murderer beforehand for stalking her son online.
He also stalked other kids online from the same school.
, and then sent them texts to tell them what he had done.

I should imagine it nigh on impossible to tell a young lad to keep off the Internet or games rooms etc, especially when they have smart phones and use the Internet for homework etc.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Angelika

Teenagers are tricky!

Determined teenagers will find a way to do what they want, no matter how much supervision they are under. Its better to keep them talking and constantly compromising with parents on what they want to do. This isn't a foolproof solution but its better than constantly telling them "no." Parents need to be consistent and fair and treat children with respect and as thinking people. Teenagers are better than their parents and society give them credit for.

With teenagers its about demystifying the adult world and allowing them to satisfy their curiosity.

Indeed, some monitoring and discussion should definitely be there for teenagers but as they get older, you have to start giving them a bit of privacy as well, you have to prepare them for the real world and part of that is giving them some freedom and opportunity to make some of their own choices

[Crimson Dynamo]

The killer is psychopathic that is clear

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by Angelika

Its better to keep them talking and constantly compromising with parents on what they want to do. This isn't a foolproof solution but its better than constantly telling them "no."

Completely agree with this; people have it totally the wrong way round. Teenagers don't need more rules, restrictions and supervising... that's what LETS things like this happen. When you impose strict limits like that on a teenager, they will simply clam up, and find a way to sneak around without you knowing what they're doing. They won't trust you to give them any freedom or to understand them and so they will simply hide certain things - like strange new online friends - from you and then they will sneak off to meet them without telling anyone where they're going.

Instead, if you GIVE them that trust and freedom, if you treat them more like an equal, if YOU tell THEM what's going on in your life as you would a friend rather than a subordinate, then they are MUCH more likely to voluntarily tell you what's going on in their life. And if they're telling you about these things, then it's much easier to spot when something dodgy is going on that needs to addressed.