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i expect harassment when i open HOGS posts 4 21.05%
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no one should expect any harassment at work 14 73.68%
no one should expect any harassment at work
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we all should expect some kind of harassment at work 1 5.26%
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Old 11-12-2017, 08:55 AM #1
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No you should not have to expect it or put up with it.
It shouldn't take place at all.

However,from things I've heard and seen, it goes on,between and indeed from both sexes.

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I have put up with sexual harassment in the workplace, just like, I imagine, most other women who work. If women want to be seen as equals in the workplace they have to learn to nip that kind of **** in the bud and not turn into shrinking violets. "Hey! Get your hands off me!" loudly in earshot of a third party is better than all the grievance procedures and historic allegations in the world.
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I have put up with sexual harassment in the workplace, just like, I imagine, most other women who work. If women want to be seen as equals in the workplace they have to learn to nip that kind of **** in the bud and not turn into shrinking violets. "Hey! Get your hands off me!" loudly in earshot of a third party is better than all the grievance procedures and historic allegations in the world.
I must admit this is the way it was dealt with back in the day.
A swift knee in the tackle area would normally stop anyone getting too touchy-feely as well.
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depends if you live in the ideal world or the real one
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Or the world where you think that expecting women to wear heels to work is acceptable.
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I had a guy sexually harass me in the workplace. I took him to one side and asked him if he was aware he'd crossed a line and if he did it again I would be putting a grievance in. He took that on board because he knew I meant it.

Nobody should have to put up and shut up when it comes to any sort of workplace harassment but its understandable why some people do put up with that sort of ****. I wouldn't hesitate in telling people to report unprofessional behavior. If they are assertive enough to confront the culprit and warn them of potential consequences, thats fine but its equally fine to tell their manager or if its serious enough, put in a grievance.
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I had a guy sexually harass me in the workplace. I took him to one side and asked him if he was aware he'd crossed a line and if he did it again I would be putting a grievance in. He took that on board because he knew I meant it.
Do you think the guy knew he'd crossed a line, or did he think it was just playful flirting, or "banter" type thing? Sure he took it on board, doesn't mean he saw the error of his ways, it could have been a leave DR alone type thing.
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I have put up with sexual harassment in the workplace, just like, I imagine, most other women who work. If women want to be seen as equals in the workplace they have to learn to nip that kind of **** in the bud and not turn into shrinking violets. "Hey! Get your hands off me!" loudly in earshot of a third party is better than all the grievance procedures and historic allegations in the world.
I wholeheartedly agree with this,well said Livia
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Do you think the guy knew he'd crossed a line, or did he think it was just playful flirting, or "banter" type thing? Sure he took it on board, doesn't mean he saw the error of his ways, it could have been a leave DR alone type thing.
Yes, he knew he'd crossed the line and I don't consider trying to rest a hand on my inner thigh playful flirting He probably tried it on with lots of women.
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I have put up with sexual harassment in the workplace, just like, I imagine, most other women who work. If women want to be seen as equals in the workplace they have to learn to nip that kind of **** in the bud and not turn into shrinking violets. "Hey! Get your hands off me!" loudly in earshot of a third party is better than all the grievance procedures and historic allegations in the world.
hmm don't agree but each to their own i guess
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If women want to be equal they have to shout and stamp their feet because a man disrespects them?

Maybe it's certain men need to learn how to respect themselves as well as other people.
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Or the world where you think that expecting women to wear heels to work is acceptable.
A miniscule proportion of employers. No one should be told what to wear for work.
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If women want to be equal they have to shout and stamp their feet because a man disrespects them?

Maybe it's certain men need to learn how to respect themselves as well as other people.
No, they have to speak loudly and firmly and leave whomever is crossing a line in no doubt that the workplace is no place for their archaic bullsh1t.
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hmm don't agree but each to their own i guess
If you don't agree, what's your solution?
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No, they have to speak loudly and firmly and leave whomever is crossing a line in no doubt that the workplace is no place for their archaic bullsh1t.
. I am not getting all the wilting violets who were sitting around on the London news the other day saying they had been harassed, these are women brought up to look after themselves, they are not victims and shouldn't allow themselves to be, I can understand it if maybe the person is very young and naďve, but in the main I don't really get why it is such a big issue, its like we have been transported back to Victoriana, the NHS will be issuing smelling salts as well as rape alarms at the rate we are going.
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. I am not getting all the wilting violets who were sitting around on the London news the other day saying they had been harassed, these are women brought up to look after themselves, they are not victims and shouldn't allow themselves to be, I can understand it if maybe the person is very young and naďve, but in the main I don't really get why it is such a big issue, its like we have been transported back to Victoriana, the NHS will be issuing smelling salts as well as rape alarms at the rate we are going.
That's just how I feel about it.
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I think it's very easy to say 'stand up for yourself' but it's harder to do in practice. Look at Terry Crews, he was a victim of sexual assault by a producer and yet remained quiet and he's built like a Greek God. It can happen to anyone and I don't think how you respond to it is about personality or confidence, being harassed and assaulted could put anyone through a gamut of doubt and passivity when it comes to dealing with what happened to them.

While it's important to tell women (and in some cases, men) to stand up for themselves we must put more emphasis on trying to tackle the source of it, the people committing these acts that have no respect for the genders they are attracted to.

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I should never expect sexual harassment anywhere.
I do expect to experience it everywhere, and this expectation is often met. Work was always one of the worst places, but then again, I worked in a bar where drunk wankers who think they are Casanova and expect you to fall on the floor infront of them legs splayed screaming **** me, because they grabbed your tit forcefully and gave you a wink, are sadly extremely common.

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