[lily.]

Heh.. I'm guna behave.. honest I am..

[nodisharmony]

Quotes from (~~) "MrLuvaLuva":-

I disagree. I could tell you to "get lost" in a joke way but you could take it as an insult. You see what I mean?

I would imagine in that case, I would either, rise above it, laugh, retort in my usual tactile manner, look at the smilie next to the comment, or U2U you and ask why?

Well read the post more thoroughly L

That is Baz giving L and order She might reply, "Sorry Sir", but I'd doubt it

So hush little dahlin.

A little flirtation from two member friends

Quotes from (L) "Stropz":-

J.C. I agree with you..

Agreeing is good! and to agree in this observation is correct

But, then again, Barry and Nick do tend to go on a bit, so maybe they fell off their train of thought..

Not a chance Linda. Only going on for positive reasons and this is one of them, agreed...

I would but I honestly can't be a****d Barry

naughty, naughty, naughty...This is where discression goes hand in hand.

Meh...

Never understood what that meant?

Heh.. I'm guna behave.. honest I am..

I saw a seagull push away four pigeons, just to get a crust off a slice of bread. Some birds never learn

Quotes from (J.C.):-

Seems to me that you are both saying the same thing. May be I misunderstood.

I don't think you have misunderstood too much J.C You are very observant and naturally have a right to voice your opinions on whatever or whoever, "past or present", knock, knock, hint, hint.

I do see what you are saying but I guess with the words `get lost` the tone can only be determined by the person reading it and the circumstances they consider for it to have be written.

I know it is easier, when you have got to know the member and that is important! as you can joke a bit and be a little cryptic, or a lot, "for some of us", but others may think that there is love going around, ( ~~L ) can't be Anyway, back to the serious side:- The circumstances are important and if there is definite hostility, then it is easy to work out the "tone", but it is harder to deal with it. As it depends on who, when & why. New members will find it harder to understand some of the banter and some of the friendships, etc..

We all enjoy fierce banter with friends where we can really push the boundaries in the safe knowledge that they do know who we truly are and what we mean.

A true observation.

Quotes from Red Moon:-

In reply to L

Good thing I do some times Stropz.

You are very tolerant towards her. I hope she is appreciative?

In reply to J.C

And that is where the misunderstanding in that banter can occur that start the flame because you can't read the expression on someones face for just the words alone.

It will continue that way, as friends that get cheeky like L & ~~ are famous today! But when 1000 school kids join TIBB after a big leafleting campaign and the internet during Big Brother 8, it will be harder to be famous and cheeky at the same time. There's a job on there

Only joking about the leafleting & the web





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[lily.]

In the interests of forum harmony Nick, I would like to clear a few things up.

It pisses me off when you dissect my posts. I don't think it's necessary to do it all the time.

Also, I don't think you know me well enough to insinuate the things that you do sometimes. I appreciate that you don't mean any malice, however, there are certain things you can get away with amongst friends once you pass a certain point and you feel that you know each other well enough to do so. We have not passed that point and I don't feel that we know each other well enough to be "personal" in our jokes. I would like to think that I have steered clear of insinuating anything like that with you since we overcame our initial issues back when you first joined.

It's one thing to assume you know something about a fellow FM, but quite another to publicly insinuate.

Please take note of this and respect my feelings on the matter.

[nodisharmony]

Originally posted by L
In the interests of forum harmony Nick, I would like to clear a few things up.

It p****s me off when you dissect my posts. I don't think it's necessary to do it all the time.

Also, I don't think you know me well enough to insinuate the things that you do sometimes. I appreciate that you don't mean any malice, however, there are certain things you can get away with amongst friends once you pass a certain point and you feel that you know each other well enough to do so. We have not passed that point and I don't feel that we know each other well enough to be "personal" in our jokes. I would like to think that I have steered clear of insinuating anything like that with you since we overcame our initial issues back when you first joined.

It's one thing to assume you know something about a fellow FM, but quite another to publicly insinuate.

Please take note of this and respect my feelings on the matter.

I am sorry you feel that way Linda, (L)

I am what I am & have attempted to be friendly towards someone who wasn't so friendly at the beginning.

We have passed through that bridge and hopefully all is well

I wasn't online when all these postings took place between the various members, (~~, L, J.C., Red Moon) I decided to do one long post instead, which took a bit of time, (by the way).

I kept it in a frivolous manner and balanced seriousness and friendliness in a safe balance.

I personally couldn't see anything wrong with the post at all?? But you obviously have.

All I can see, is, that being friendly is not what you really want? and what you would prefer is a more formal relationship, like a business meeting or something.

I apologise for any inconvenience I may have caused you and if you prefer me to be less friendly, I shall keep things more formal instead and keep things short and sweet.

I don't side with sides, I just stay friendly with as many members as I can and like anyone who is nice and friendly in return and keep the peace too

But I would rather be friendly to you as well





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[lily.]

God, you are impossible Nick.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by nodisharmony

All I can see, is, that being friendly is not what you really want? and what you would prefer is a more formal relationship, like a business meeting or something.

Now Nick that is not fair. I don't like having my posts dissected either. It puts you off posting in threads if you are analyzed.

[Kristen]

I am an extroverted person and I always have been. I don't have any quiet friends. I don't have time for quiet people tbh.

[nodisharmony]

Originally posted by Kristen
I am an extroverted person and I always have been. I don't have any quiet friends. I don't have time for quiet people tbh.

I know what you mean Kristen.

If you have 5 friends who go out together, but one of them is so quiet and hardly says a thing, but the rest are out going and fun and in some cases, outrageous!! it can be a great day/night out.

But some people are just not like that.

This is what is so great about a forum. It can make some of the quieter ones, much more extrovert!

Sometimes, the extroverted people in real life can take the word "extrovert" to a new level & beyond

I am a bit of both, Extrovert/Introvert. My girlfriend swears blind that I am not an "introvert", but I know that in some cases, I can be shy at times.





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[Kristen]

Originally posted by nodisharmony

I know what you mean Kristen.

If you have 5 friends who go out together, but one of them is so quiet and hardly says a thing, but the rest are out going and fun and in some cases, outrageous!! it can be a great day/night out.

But some people are just not like that.

This is what is so great about a forum. It can make some of the quieter ones, much more extrovert!

Sometimes, the extroverted people in real life can take the word "extrovert" to a new level & beyond

I am a bit of both, Extrovert/Introvert. My girlfriend swears blind that I am not an "introvert", but I know that in some cases, I can be shy at times.





nodisharmony

I definetely don't see you as an introvert Nick
But EVERYONE has their shy side.
I maybe loud but I always let people have their say that I care about of course.

[nodisharmony]

Originally posted by Kristen
I definetely don't see you as an introvert Nick
But EVERYONE has their shy side.
I maybe loud but I always let people have their say that I care about of course.

That's good Kristen

I shall definitely stay an extrovert, as I don't want to lose you as a friend

That is what makes TIBB forum great! Plenty of friendships with people you never meet, but some are "loud" and some are in the "middle" and some are "quiet", but on here, we just get on with it




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[Sunny_01]

I think that one problem is perceptions! the way we percieve others is often very different from who they really are.

I think that you took Lindas post and misunderstood what she said, or chose to interpret it how you wanted to. All she asked was that you dont dissect her posts and that as she had a shaky start with you she doesnt feel that she knows you well enough to be as familiar as she feels you are being. She certainly did not say she wanted to remain aloof etc...

Sometimes when online it can be easy to be over failiar with people and usually its recieved ok, but sometimes when people over step that invisible line they cause offence without meaning to but none the less they do.

Lets just accept that we are all different and that actually none of us like our posts dissected, we dont mind them quoted and commented on, just not pullled into a million pieces.

[nodisharmony]

Originally posted by Sunny_01
I think that one problem is perceptions! the way we percieve others is often very different from who they really are.

I think that you took Lindas post and misunderstood what she said, or chose to interpret it how you wanted to. All she asked was that you dont dissect her posts and that as she had a shaky start with you she doesnt feel that she knows you well enough to be as familiar as she feels you are being. She certainly did not say she wanted to remain aloof etc...

Sometimes when online it can be easy to be over failiar with people and usually its recieved ok, but sometimes when people over step that invisible line they cause offence without meaning to but none the less they do.

Lets just accept that we are all different and that actually none of us like our posts dissected, we dont mind them quoted and commented on, just not pullled into a million pieces.

You are right Sunny

I have had loads of my past posts dissected time & time again. But I have done "one or two big ones", sorry, 400+ big ones So I excuse almost anyone dissecting any of mine.

But regarding Linda's, all I can say, is, that I am sorry if you personally didn't like the way I came over within that post and I shall not do it again to you.

Some other members may be not so apologetic at all and wouldn't give a s***

but you know I do care




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[Sunny_01]

I know you do Nick

[~Kizwiz~]

I dont think I have a very loud voice.... but maybe people opinions of me are different on this site???

In fact I am very quiet with my family

[Sophii3x]

I'm can be very quiet and then very loud.

My grandfather is deaf, so my whole family have to shout to him instead of speaking (he wears a hearing aid). It's really annoying because I'm a generally quiet person, I'm only loud when I speak to him. I never speak in school, that's why people in school don't notice me. But I'm chatty with my friends.

[nodisharmony]

Originally posted by Sophii3x
I'm can be very quiet and then very loud.

My grandfather is deaf, so my whole family have to shout to him instead of speaking (he wears a hearing aid). It's really annoying because I'm a generally quiet person, I'm only loud when I speak to him. I never speak in school, that's why people in school don't notice me. But I'm chatty with my friends.

That was kinda like me when I was at school Sophie.

To my friends I would be very chatty and certainly extroverted, but to another pupil or pupils in the school, that I didn't really know, I wouldn't approach.

The same goes for many, many more people.

But on a forum, it can take away some of those apprehensions that may occur in the real world and some can use those very loudly or very quietly on a forum and don't worry as much.

The one observation about being loud on a forum, is, that sometimes it is quite easy to scare other members and make them think that the person being so loud is really not a nice person.

This is when they have to explore the forum and the member who may be very loud and see whether that member has been loud and scary in other places within a forum.

That will tell you or anyone else whether they are actually just like that or something more sinister.

and if it does result in the word, "sinister", avoidance is the best choice to make.




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