[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by WOMBAI

That is it exactly! Guilty conscience! How can you trust him completely - when he has already cheated on you?

Yeah, exactly, for me, once the trust is broken I don't think I'd ever fully trust that person again really.

[Sophii3x]

Originally Posted by WOMBAI

That is it exactly! Guilty conscience! How can you trust him completely - when he has already cheated on you?

I just do, don't get me wrong I never thought I could.. but I'm at a point where I know he's changed. All that was a long time ago.. we were together for 9 months when were 14/15 (both nearly 19 now) and he slept and left me for my best friend. Over a year later we got back together again and now we've been with each other for over 2 and a half years. He refuses to let me talk about the past, he gets too upset/angry but I don't like him being all jealous when he doesn't need to be.

[Dr.Gonzo]

Originally Posted by Sophii3x

I just do, don't get me wrong I never thought I could.. but I'm at a point where I know he's changed. All that was a long time ago.. we were together for 9 months when were 14/15 (both nearly 19 now) and he slept and left me for my best friend. Over a year later we got back together again and now we've been with each other for over 2 and a half years. He refuses to let me talk about the past, he gets too upset/angry but I don't like him being all jealous when he doesn't need to be.

You see, because he's done it, he can see how easy it is to do. If I can do it, then she can, too, he'll think.

[WOMBAI]

Originally Posted by Sophii3x

I just do, don't get me wrong I never thought I could.. but I'm at a point where I know he's changed. All that was a long time ago.. we were together for 9 months when were 14/15 (both nearly 19 now) and he slept and left me for my best friend. Over a year later we got back together again and now we've been with each other for over 2 and a half years. He refuses to let me talk about the past, he gets too upset/angry but I don't like him being all jealous when he doesn't need to be.

You were both very young - he may well have changed. But I would be a little concerned about his refusal to talk about it. If you need to talk about it - to lay it to rest - he owes you that!

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Sophii3x

I just do, don't get me wrong I never thought I could.. but I'm at a point where I know he's changed. All that was a long time ago.. we were together for 9 months when were 14/15 (both nearly 19 now) and he slept and left me for my best friend. Over a year later we got back together again and now we've been with each other for over 2 and a half years. He refuses to let me talk about the past, he gets too upset/angry but I don't like him being all jealous when he doesn't need to be.

and are you still friends with your "best friend"?

[Sophii3x]

Originally Posted by Dr.Gonzo

You see, because he's done it, he can see how easy it is to do. If I can do it, then she can, too, he'll think.

That's what my friends say. But as I said he doesn't need to worry cause I wouldn't dream of doing it.

Originally Posted by WOMBAI

You were both very young - he may well have changed. But I would be a little concerned about his refusal to talk about it. If you need to talk about it - to lay it to rest - he owes you that!

He definately has. Trust me, I've tried.. he just feels it's easier to forget it knowing how much it affected/hurt me at the time.

Originally Posted by Niamhxo

and are you still friends with your "best friend"?

Hell to the no :P She actually went and stole the next boyfriend I had after all that. Worst.friend.EVER, I still hate her.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Sophii3x

That's what my friends say. But as I said he doesn't need to worry cause I wouldn't dream of doing it.


He definately has. Trust me, I've tried.. he just feels it's easier to forget it knowing how much it affected/hurt me at the time.


Hell to the no :P She actually went and stole the next boyfriend I had after all that. Worst.friend.EVER, I still hate her.

Well, I'm glad to hear that atleast!! I hope he has changed for your sake, I suppose because he was so young at the time that it is more likely that it was just because of his age, If he were an adult when he did it I wouldn't be so sure though!