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Old 24-06-2010, 01:31 PM #1
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Sounds patronising? But I don't mind being called "dear" if it is in a nice way with good intentions...
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I dont I just think you sound like a prat
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Lol. I never use dear in a convo. Sometimes darling though.
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i say Dear a fair bit, but no one gets offended. Maybe its because I am a woman though. And it could be the way you say it.
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Like with anything, depends how it's put across
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Shush dear
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Would you say it to a bloke?
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Why do you call them dear? Its a bit too familiar. IMO
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Where's WOMBAI when you need her...

edit: oh wait she already posted, I thought she didn't because I didn't recognize her avatar...

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No because you're meant to say it to women!
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No because you're meant to say it to women!
Like many other things - it is the context in which it is said! Men and women call each other dear all the time as a term of endearment! But when a man says it to a woman he hardly knows - it is often meant in a patronising way - hence why most women don't like it! Men who use it that way though - aren't worth listening to!
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Lol. I never use dear in a convo. Sometimes darling though.
Aye its all about context...but who says dear these days? sounds like Alf Garnett...my dear
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They also don't like when you call them "birds" or "walking shag" or "dick eater"
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i don't mind being called dear rofl.
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Like many other things - it is the context in which it is said! Men and women call each other dear all the time as a term of endearment! But when a man says it to a woman he hardly knows - it is often meant in a patronising way - hence why most women don't like it! Men who use it that way though - aren't worth listening to!
I use it in a chamring way
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Its patronising and it sounds like an animal.

Hinny is worse than dear though
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Calm down dear, it's just a commercial


Christ, pissed myself off now....
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the best is "love" by a long way



"You alrite luv?"

They love it!
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Maybe the people Inone is offending are Post-Feminist Feminists?
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Because they are 'cheap'.
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Because they are 'cheap'.
Dear oh dear
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