[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

Vicky, something isn't quite right. The thread that was closed, was only started yesterday, and was closed down within 7 hours - so Im unclear how it can be said that there were 'loads of reports coming from it every day'.... it wasn't even up for a day.

if half the posts on the thread were off topic, why are those who were guilty of taking it off topic, despite being asked by several members, to keep on topic, why are they not taken to task, rather than the thread being closed. It seems a very easy way of someone deliberately going OT, especially if they don't like the subject matter, they know that going OT will get the thread closed - and with their own posts being deleted so it looks like they have done nothing wrong -along with several of my own posts requesting that they stop going off topic being deleted.

Why punish the whole thread instead of those guilty of deliberately going OT, and who do so, knowing the thread will get closed. That's a wee bit unfair ?

Apologies, was thinking of a different thread

Still, now that I know which you were actually on about, there were a surprising amount of reports coming from that too :/

And if there had been just one person going off topic, then yeah...that on person would be punished...as it was, a few were going off topic.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by angus58

It doesn't require any intellect to know the answer to that one really. I thought baiting other members was against the rules, but apparently not for some.

Oh yeah, because we are all biased arent we, forgot about that

[Iceman]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Oh yeah, because we are all biased arent we, forgot about that

get back to the Biased hut immediately!

[James]

Originally Posted by angus58

Lol - yes it's called selective moderating - I get a warning for calling out the troll on the other thread, yet others get away with far worse than calling someone "thick" Mind you, it was totally worth it and I don't retract a word

You left out there how, in the post you were warned about, you, basically, called someone the 'c word' as well as 'thick'. You were lucky not to get banned for that, but we took into consideration some of the other insults that were flying around in that thread.

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by Iceman

It's not up for discussion it was closed, as will this if you all dont stop insulting each other, discuss the old housemates by all means but flinging insults around isn't on.

Iceman, no offence, but you closed the thread saying that the show was over - when there still exists a BB forum. I understand Vicky saying it was bad choice of wording. However,Now I personally asked for a mod to intervene as it was continually being taken off topic and asked 'if it was possible that a word could be had' as I didn't want it to go the same way as every other thread that is deliberately taken off topic, which naturally, if a person continues doing so and are allowed to continue doing so, to the point that threads are closed, it does seem unfair.

I still don't understand why the thread has to suffer when threads being taken off topic deliberately, with intent on getting them closed, seems to be quite a recurring theme. That's my point. Clearly it's up to the mods to decide. But it does seem unfair. I'm only putting my own point over and not expecting a reply from you - the mods decide and that's it.

Back on topic

Now on the subject of boarding school..... I myself spent the last few years of my teenage years at boarding school in Hastings. It hardly traumatised me, indeed it did nothing but aid me in learning how to be independant and learn how to stand on my own two feet, without being mollycoddled along the way. So if some have this rather strange idea of boarding school being some sort of 'draconian punishment', I can assure you, I personally spent some of my best school days down in Catsfield Place.

[babycakes]

Originally Posted by lauraC

thanks for your input, how old was your son when he was at boarding school?

12-18 but he also did some temp boarding at his previous school where he was a day boy from the age of 8 onwards.

I get rather cross at the insinuation that boarding schools produce unbalanced and perverse personalities - I've met hundreds of these kids over the years, and seen them turn into teenagers and adults, and bar one or two who have gone off the rails with the usual transgressions that affect all of society - they are no different.

BTW, "Thanks for your input" seems a little terse, considering that you implied that children that attend boarding schools are unwanted and inconvenient little people sent into some Kafkaesque exile.

[babycakes]

Originally Posted by lauraC

thanks for your input, how old was your son when he was at boarding school?
Sorry a 17 year old dating a 34 year old?
I bet his parents were regretting sending him to boarding school, that does kind of back up my theory to be honest

Just noticed your edit.

Are you know suggesting that only kids educated in the private system have flings with someone older ? I don't think that is true at all. Knowing a lot of other kids of that age, it is not uncommon. Happens to boys and girls from the state system too, or is that too unpalatable to believe ?

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by babycakes

Just noticed your edit.

Are you know suggesting that only kids educated in the private system have flings with someone older ? I don't think that is true at all. Knowing a lot of other kids of that age, it is not uncommon. Happens to boys and girls from the state system too, or is that too unplatable to believe ?

Have to agree, it matters not where a person is educated. If they prefer older men / or older women - that's their own preference. It's hardly stuff that news flashes are made from is it!

[lauraC]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

Back on topic

Now on the subject of boarding school..... I myself spent the last few years of my teenage years at boarding school in Hastings. It hardly traumatised me, indeed it did nothing but aid me in learning how to be independant and learn how to stand on my own two feet, without being mollycoddled along the way. So if some have this rather strange idea of boarding school being some sort of 'draconian punishment', I can assure you, I personally spent some of my best school days down in Catsfield Place.

cool back on topic :-)
Personally although I really don't want to get into parental choices and be over critical, there are always personal circumstances where it's maybe the better choice to send your child away to board at school but I certainly don't think it's mollycoddling to want to have your young children at home with you and give them all the emotional love and support they need when they are children, it might force a child to become an adult much earlier than is necessary but I don't think that's a particularly good thing

[lauraC]

Originally Posted by babycakes

Just noticed your edit.

Are you know suggesting that only kids educated in the private system have flings with someone older ? I don't think that is true at all. Knowing a lot of other kids of that age, it is not uncommon. Happens to boys and girls from the state system too, or is that too unpalatable to believe ?

I'm no expert to be honest but I do think there maybe a link to younger people dating much older people to do with the need for a mother/father figure I'm a but shocked at the 17/35 year old story it doesn't seem right

[Vodka Drinka]

Originally Posted by lauraC

thanks for your input, how old was your son when he was at boarding school?
Sorry a 17 year old dating a 34 year old?
I bet his parents were regretting sending him to boarding school, that does kind of back up my theory to be honest

How the hell do you know that his parents regretted sending him to boarding school? What gives you the right to presume something like that?

You've not proved your point at all. In fact you've made your self look even more stupid than you did before (something I'd thought was impossible until now).

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

Have to agree, it matters not where a person is educated. If they prefer older men / or older women - that's their own preference. It's hardly stuff that news flashes are made from is it!

It's much healthier to prefer older people than these pervs who like 'young ones'it's no ones business as long as someone is of age and consenting!!

[babycakes]

Originally Posted by lauraC

cool back on topic :-)
Personally although I really don't want to get into parental choices and be over critical, there are always personal circumstances where it's maybe the better choice to send your child away to board at school but I certainly don't think it's mollycoddling to want to have your young children at home with you and give them all the emotional love and support they need when they are children, it might force a child to become an adult much earlier than is necessary but I don't think that's a particularly good thing

As I said before - speaking from experience - kids attending boarding school get all the love and support that other kids get and they don't grow up too soon, they just learn some essential life skills too. I speak of the hundreds that I have met over the years. Why would you think otherwise ? Assumptions and speculations from a point of no experience simply don't hold water with me.

[lauraC]

Originally Posted by babycakes

As I said before - speaking from experience - kids attending boarding school get all the love and support that other kids get and they don't grow up too soon, they just learn some essential life skills too. I speak of the hundreds that I have met over the years. Why would you think otherwise ? Assumptions and speculations from a point of no experience simply don't hold water with me.

How do you give them that love an support if you don't see them for weeks at a time?

[Suze]

Hi Vicky. Thank you for clarifying a few things Much appreciated. Although some stuff posted by one poster in particular is imo verging on libellous and surely that should be enough to close a thread when that happens?

Hi LauraC, I asked you a few things earlier in this thread in the course of debate, and you haven't replied to me, whilst you have replied to quite a few others? I don't know if you missed my post, couldn't or didn't have a reply or thought it needed no response or was not worthy of one, which is fair enough, or would rather not mention some stuff on a thread. So if the latter, then I am quite willing to correspond instead by PM if that would be a preference?

[Vodka Drinka]

Originally Posted by lauraC

How do you give them that love an support if you don't see them for weeks at a time?

You are seriously crossing the line here. What business is it of yours how someone else raises their children?

[babycakes]

Originally Posted by lauraC

I'm no expert to be honest but I do think there maybe a link to younger people dating much older people to do with the need for a mother/father figure I'm a but shocked at the 17/35 year old story it doesn't seem right

Not something I would want for my child, but I know loads of people, and that includes my own state educated contemporaries, that had flings with someone older. When I was a new mother, I met a woman married to my husband's Chairman. She was in her 20's, he was 62. Just because you and I may disapprove doesn't mean that it doesn't happen.

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by lauraC

cool back on topic :-)
Personally although I really don't want to get into parental choices and be over critical, there are always personal circumstances where it's maybe the better choice to send your child away to board at school but I certainly don't think it's mollycoddling to want to have your young children at home with you and give them all the emotional love and support they need when they are children, it might force a child to become an adult much earlier than is necessary but I don't think that's a particularly good thing

Given that I'll hazard a wild guess here, you weren't privately educated, nor have you put any children through boarding school, so you aren't in any real position to offer any real basis upon which to make such statements - you simply haven't had the experience that some on this thread actually have. the word 'force' doesn't come into it. I had a choice, to stay with grandparents in Scotland and attend the local school, go to a school in Switzerland (called T.A.S.I.S.) or the choice of boarding schools in England, I chose Catsfield Place. I chose England as it allowed me to nip back home on exeat weekends to see my friends back 'home'. Did you notice those words, "I chose".

Besides which. A discussion on the pros /cons of boarding schools, now that wasn't why you started this thread, is it.

[lauraC]

Originally Posted by Suze

Hi Vicky. Thank you for clarifying a few things Much appreciated. Although some stuff posted by one poster in particular is imo verging on libellous and surely that should be enough to close a thread when that happens?

Hi LauraC, I asked you a few things earlier in this thread in the course of debate, and you haven't replied to me, whilst you have replied to quite a few others? I don't know if you missed my post, couldn't or didn't have a reply or thought it needed no response or was not worthy of one, which is fair enough, or would rather not mention some stuff on a thread. So if the latter, then I am quite willing to correspond instead by PM if that would be a preference?

I'm not deliberately ignoring you but was it who am I on digital spy? I'm not sure why it matters, I didn't post this thread there because I honestly don't think it is something that I personally want to bring up on a forum where people will take the piss out of ben and make judgements about his mum etc

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by lauraC

How do you give them that love an support if you don't see them for weeks at a time?

Do you realise how banal that really sounds! let's look at this another way to show how blinkered that suggestion really is: - A parent who has to work abroad then, ie: father in the forces, based in the Middle East for months at a time - how do you suspect they manage to love and support their children that the don't see for months on end?

[Vodka Drinka]

Originally Posted by lauraC

I'm not deliberately ignoring you but was it who am I on digital spy? I'm not sure why it matters, I didn't post this thread there because I honestly don't think it is something that I personally want to bring up on a forum where people will take the piss out of ben and make judgements about his mum etc

It was obvious to me that you brought it up to take the piss out of Ben. Why else start it?

[lauraC]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

Given that I'll hazard a wild guess here, you weren't privately educated, nor have you put any children through boarding school, so you aren't in any real position to offer any real basis upon which to make such statements - you simply haven't had the experience that some on this thread actually have. the word 'force' doesn't come into it. I had a choice, to stay with grandparents in Scotland and attend the local school, go to a school in Switzerland (called T.A.S.I.S.) or the choice of boarding schools in England, I chose Catsfield Place. I chose England as it allowed me to nip back home on exeat weekends to see my friends back 'home'. Did you notice those words, "I chose".

Besides which. A discussion on the pros /cons of boarding schools, now that wasn't why you started this thread, is it.

I worked in a private school but it wasn't a boarding school it was excellent, a very very good school, there are loads of good school about I think sometimes it might be necessary to have children board but I don't think it's ideal

[pices]

Originally Posted by lauraC

you all seemed really bored Going on and on about mario's lack of interest in ben I thought I might provoke a real discussion, Does boarding school mess kids up? Is ben's attraction to old ladies him looking for a mother? Is it a sad story of childhood need or is it a kinky story of adult fetish?
Lots to discuss

Ben is not attracted to old ladies though, what do you define as old?I think most of the ladies he dates are of his own age or less, the fact that he accompanied some older ladies to posh events is neither here nor there, though as an older lady myself i can see why anyone would want Bens company at such places.

Why get your mind in such a muddle anyhow wondering what someone elses preferences are, its not something I would concern myself with tbh unless it looked dubious or illegal, whatever this 8 year old child did.....and lets face it at the age of eight it would not be likely to be of a sexual nature, why does it as you say 'not sit well with you' why are you concerned at all with boarding schools, replacement mummies, or adult fetish.
have you had a bad boarding school experience yourself on which you are deflecting on to someone else.
I dont ever get bored talking about housemates I wish to discuss, if I did I would not be discussing them.

[babycakes]

Originally Posted by lauraC

How do you give them that love an support if you don't see them for weeks at a time?

Again - you come out with assumptions ? Why would you do this unless you meant to seriously insult ?

You obviously know little of the system. You see them far more regularly than you suggest, and are in constant contact. Love and support are not exclusive to them being in a bedroom a few metres above your head.

Any parent who knows their child makes a choice that suits the personality and needs of that individual.

At this point I take my leave from this ridiculous thread - I'm not here to be batantly baited. I commented in response to a pretty insulting and utterly ludicrous statement.

[lauraC]

Originally Posted by Vodka Drinka

It was obvious to me that you brought it up to take the piss out of Ben. Why else start it?

It was something that have never been discussed I don't think it was ever brought up in the other forum, it interests me and to be honest the child ben was talking about had me really quite upset, but later I thought maybe I was being naive and the child was really 30 years old, to which yeah I would find hilarious to be honest