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Originally Posted by Vanessa

Yes there's good in him, we all saw it.
Unfortunately his abusive upbringing means he's a very troubled man.
He said it himself he's very volatile and still has counselling.

"Troubled upbringing" as an excuse for aggressive behaviour/lack of self control can work until about age 30, its wearing thin by 40,beyond that it's just no excuse at all. Kudos for him to admitting he's troubled and that he still has work to do(as some sadly never get there) but age 70+ is... A bit late in the game to still be beating his chest like a teenager.