[Nedusa]

Originally Posted by Zee

I do agree that coming forward several decades later seems a bit dodgy, but then again, I've technically been the victim of a sexual assault. Sexual assault isn't always a life ruining rapist attacking a victim in public, or a creepy uncle abusing his family connections. In my case, I was very drunk and was forced to do things that I would never have agreed to do in a sober frame of mind with the person who forced themselves upon me. I'm no worse off for the experience - I was very drunk at the time and I can only remember sketchy details, but I later found out from other people that there had been some bragging about what had happened so other people knew what had gone on. As mad as it sounds, I don't want to ruin someone else's life over something that could well have just been a drunken mistake. They might never do that ever again in their lives. I'm not in need of surgery or therapy over the incident, I don't want to ruin someone else's life over something like that...

However, if, some time down the line, I heard that this person was being taken to court over sexual assault, I would seriously reconsider my position on the matter. That, I imagine, is how these situations come to be. Lots of victims who don't necessarily feel victimised, thinking they are isolated incidents. Perhaps they're even friends with the person who committed the assault. I sometimes see the person who assaulted me socially and I don't harbour any ill will towards them. These things can be incredibly complex...

That was quite a tough post to read, you have my support for relating what is clearly quite traumatic details of an experience that was for you not consensual

I know from my own experiences that some men make assumptions about a situation that are completely wrong.

I hope you have sought and received the necessary help and support needed to rise above this and have been able to move forward.