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Originally Posted by chuff me dizzy

But shes not sunk to the depths he has by telling everyone why she doesnt like him

He has not sunk to any depth. He has put her constant targeting of him in its true context. If she wished to honour her dead husband's memory, she would have thought of the ramifications of her bitchiness and snide comments, knowing if the whole story came out she would rehash his transgressions. The dead deserve acknowledgment (not necessarily respect as only those that knew them can speak of their character, and we will all die eventually) but it is cowardly to snipe at others hiding behind the hope that they will not mention the reason/your own laundry because it involves the dead. Jim held his tongue for long enough. He even told her, likely from a perspective of personal experience, that she needed to "let go of [her] anger".
Linda cannot constantly gripe about a past incident and then when it is mentioned so she has to justify her behaviour, turn on her target for defending his position and past actions.