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Originally Posted by chuff me dizzy

When you bring a dead person into an argument you sink to a depth no one with common decency should sink too

Absolute tosh! Death does not make saints of sinners. Reformation/change makes saints of sinners. Our actions in life determine our legacy and memory in death. I have an opinion on past friends, relatives and enemies and I am entitled to maintain and express these opinions, even if it is unpleasant for others to hear. Jim did not speak ill of anyone, he alluded to a crime that a now-deceased person committed and admitted to. Jim did not steal that money, and history and its consequences cannot be rewritten just because the man passed away. Should we tell our children that Hitler was an estate agent and Saville invented the electric toothbrush?

You stated you have your own bereavement which you are dealing with Chuff, and I respect that, but you cannot dictate that others must ignore their own experiences of or feelings about people that you don't even know.