[Ellen]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..(just a little afterthought with the 'control'..)...Mark said last night that he felt Helen 'had his back' as in she looked out for him/was a 'good' friend etc...the thing about that is and the thing about Helen is she doesn't 'defend' her friends, she 'excuses' them regardless of every and any situation and their part played in it...and so she stops herself from 'looking and listening' all the time/she 'stunts' herself...I think maybe some people were happy to have that in the house/to have a Helen in the house 'fighting their corner' and so many things have been missed by them which is why they're now in complete confusion as to why the public are voting their 'clique' out/they really don't get it at all...the others..the 'outsiders' have looked more at every situation and judged those situations with eyes and ears and have defended when they felt it was right but not 'excused' when they felt someone, even a 'friend' wasn't in the right...and it is a control Jet..you're right...it's a very negative control because Helen doesn't see things objectively but only 'judges' things and people in terms of her personal likes and dislikes of them and those likes and dislikes come from whether they themselves 'excuse' her which people like Ashleigh, Christopher and Chris haven't....

When you make friends you become more aware of their reaction to things so will defend if you feel a friend has been hurt even if they have been in the wrong.
Regarding her judging people, she was friends with Mark who has told her she was wrong and OTT more than once but she still remained friends with him.
The 'outsiders' have excused others when they were in the wrong, Chris has done it with Ashleigh & Danielle, Ashleigh has done it with Danielle and neither one has told that person they were in the wrong.
No one likes to see a friend upset or have their feelings hurt & you will defend them because of that. They have all done that to some extent.