[Alf]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

So when you smack a child, is the aim to hurt them or not?

It's to teach them it's wrong, and that when you do wrong there are consequences.

A smacked arse will make a child cry, but it doesn't physically hurt them that much (they'll hurt themselves much more playing with their friends and laugh about it) The reason they cry is because they realise they've done wrong and let down the people who love and care for them, and that makes them think twice about doing it again.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Alf

It's to teach them it's wrong, and that when you do wrong there are consequences.

A smacked arse will make a child cry, but it doesn't physically hurt them that much (they'll hurt themselves much more playing with their friends and laugh about it) The reason they cry is because they realise they've done wrong and let down the people who love and care for them, and that makes them think twice about doing it again.

Oh come off it

[chuff me dizzy]

Originally Posted by Alf

It's to teach them it's wrong, and that when you do wrong there are consequences.

A smacked arse will make a child cry, but it doesn't physically hurt them that much (they'll hurt themselves much more playing with their friends and laugh about it) The reason they cry is because they realise they've done wrong and let down the people who love and care for them, and that makes them think twice about doing it again.

Agree

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Alf

A smacked arse will make a child cry, but it doesn't physically hurt them that much (they'll hurt themselves much more playing with their friends and laugh about it) The reason they cry is because they realise they've done wrong and let down the people who love and care for them, and that makes them think twice about doing it again.

If that was the case then why wouldn't talking to them have exactly the same effect . Or is it just quicker / easier to throw a hand at them than have a serious chat? Unless we're talking about kids who aren't even old enough to talk? In which case there's really no excuse AT ALL for using violence.

[Alf]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

If that was the case then why wouldn't talking to them have exactly the same effect . Or is it just quicker / easier to throw a hand at them than have a serious chat? Unless we're talking about kids who aren't even old enough to talk? In which case there's really no excuse AT ALL for using violence.

I'd say difference is that they create different amounts of emotion in the child.

Smacking a child shocks the child, and they realise the seriousness of what they have done, while talking to them can go in one ear and out of the other, most children don't have a great attention span.

[Parmy]

Originally Posted by Alf

I'd say difference is that they create different amounts of emotion in the child.

Smacking a child shocks the child, and they realise the seriousness of what they have done, while talking to them can go in one ear and out of the other, most children don't have a great attention span.

The seriousness.....like what for instance?

Being noisy on a bus? Not eating your greens?...hurling a games controller?


How serious should it be before a smacking.

[Alf]

Originally Posted by parmnion

The seriousness.....like what for instance?

Being noisy on a bus? Not eating your greens?...hurling a games controller?


How serious should it be before a smacking.

Running into busy road, stealing, bullying and hitting other children, lighting fires and yes, sometimes for a tantrum.

[Parmy]

Originally Posted by Alf

Running into busy road, stealing, bullying and hitting other children, lighting fires and yes, sometimes for a tantrum.

Imo, apart from the lighting fires smacking a child could cause them to do the other 4

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Alf

Running into busy road, stealing, bullying and hitting other children, lighting fires and yes, sometimes for a tantrum.

how ironic

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

how ironic

quiet you or you will get a clip round the ear

[Alf]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

how ironic

If you want to be silly about it, then I suppose it is.

I'd say it's parents teaching their children life lessons so that they grow up to be good, law-abiding, civilised, human beings.