[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Redway

It’s not a ridiculous generalisation though. It’s a non-PC truth. I’m allowed to say that.

Armand just contradicted that though, he said his parent's hardly ever hit him and tbh more white people in this thread said they were hit as kids but you just happened to ask the one black guy who commented (like you didn't already know he was black)

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Armand just contradicted that though, he said his parent's hardly ever hit him and tbh more white people in this thread said they were hit as kids but you just happened to ask the one black guy who commented (like you didn't already know he was black)

Black mums as a rule hit their kids. There’s always exceptions but as a rule. It’s deeply rooted in culture.

Armand’s the only black guy on this thread anyway that I know of so that doesn’t count.

I don’t think people understand the differences in our cultures. Black parents don’t do naughty step.

[armand.kay]

Originally Posted by Redway

Black mums as a rule hit their kids. There’s always exceptions but as a rule. It’s deeply rooted in culture.

Armand’s the only black guy on this thread anyway that I know of so that doesn’t count.

I don’t think people understand the differences in our cultures. Black parents don’t do naughty step.

Maybe its coz I'm not west African. I'm Rwanda and although and although my cousins do get hit they never really seemed as worried about getting beatings as my Nigerian/Ghanian friends did.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by armand.kay

Maybe its coz I'm not west African. I'm Rwanda and although and although my cousins do get hit they never really seemed as worried about getting beatings as my Nigerian/Ghanian friends did.

And I’m mixed. Nigerians joke about the beatings their mum gave them growing up. It’s actually all banter because none of them grew up in protected environments where the worst thing that could happen to them for calling their mum the c word was time out on the flipping naughty step.

[armand.kay]

Originally Posted by Redway

And I’m mixed. Nigerians joke about the beatings their mum gave them growing up. It’s actually all banter because none of them grew up in protected environments where the worst thing that could happen to them for calling their mum the c word was time out on the flipping naughty step.

but theres a difference between being a passive parent and being a parent who doesn't beat their children. You don't need to hit your children to get their respect. Like I said me and my siblings were never beaten but we would NEVER even dream of swearing in front of them because we respect them and not because we're afraid of getting beaten.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by armand.kay

but theres a difference between being a passive parent and being a parent who doesn't beat their children. You don't need to hit your children to get their respect. Like I said me and my siblings were never beaten but we would NEVER even dream of swearing in front of them because we respect them and not because we're afraid of getting beaten.

Exactly

[Redway]

Originally Posted by armand.kay

but theres a difference between being a passive parent and being a parent who doesn't beat their children. You don't need to hit your children to get their respect. Like I said me and my siblings were never beaten but we would NEVER even dream of swearing in front of them because we respect them and not because we're afraid of getting beaten.

Course you don’t need to hit your kids to get respect for. Them but is that the reality of it in Nigerian/Ghanaian homes for the most part?

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Redway

Course you don’t need to hit your kids to get respect for. Them but is that the reality of it in Nigerian/Ghanaian homes for the most part?

I honestly don't get your point. The debate isn't "Do some parents hit their kids" it's "SHOULD parents hit their kids" . Just because they do, doesn't mean they should... Your argument seems to be "Yeah but it's what happens!". OK. So what?

[GiRTh]

Originally Posted by Redway

Black mums as a rule hit their kids. There’s always exceptions but as a rule. It’s deeply rooted in culture.

Armand’s the only black guy on this thread anyway that I know of so that doesn’t count.

I don’t think people understand the differences in our cultures. Black parents don’t do naughty step.

this is nonsense.

[Parmy]

Originally Posted by Redway

Black mums as a rule hit their kids. There’s always exceptions but as a rule. It’s deeply rooted in culture.

Armand’s the only black guy on this thread anyway that I know of so that doesn’t count.

I don’t think people understand the differences in our cultures. Black parents don’t do naughty step.

Most Nigerians I know grew up without a step my friend.