[Abra]

Originally Posted by Benjamin

I can’t speak for all gay guys, but it really doesn’t offend me.

That's not really the point though. It doesn't offend me because I don't value her opinion and I'm too secure to be offended by something like that.

BUT, you can still call out the fact of her words being homophobic without being personally offended. She still used the word "gay" as a pejorative, and given the fact she's a forty year old woman, it says a lot about her character. And alas, we've already got people jumping on the bandwagon to say that using "gay" as a negative slur isn't homophobic, which is laughable and only helps to further weaponise gay people as "snowflakes" for caring about homophobic language and stoke the rampant culture wars we are seeing at the moment, thanks to a supposed harmless comment from her.

It's fine for someone to say that it doesn't offend them, or that they simply don't care, that's their prerogative, but the mental gymnastics to pretend like it's not homophobic are ridiculous. Is it equal to an egregious act of homophobia or a hate crime? No. But it's still homophobic and language matters.