[Maru]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

I am not a prude, just see my posts about Sam on the Strictly section as proof.

Marcello is just creepy imo.

I'm OK with being labeled a prude. Doesn't bother me either way. I value intimacy and so things like privacy are important. It makes all experiences in life feel the more precious.

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

I don't want to ruin the guy's life as he hasn't actually gone out of his way to try and harm the women in the house.

Yes he is a creep, but I think that we have to be careful on Social Media platforms when we're calling him a "predator" and questioning him working as a Youth Mentor, because he hasn't actually committed a crime.

I will personally stick to thinking that he is a bit odd with his obsession with women sexually, but not anything potentially criminal.

Oh, I agree. I've made some jokes but it's just my sense of humor. He has not done anything that's worthy of being destroyed publicly for. My current thought is he is auditioning for a role on another show (preferably a sexier one, it seems). I can't blame anyone for not feeling comfortable though, but it's also BB's fault for giving us 15-30 minutes of back-to-back cringe. It's like they want TVs to get smashed...

Here's hoping one of the women grow a pair and correct him at some point, because it's frustrating watching him get in so many attempts with not so much as a basic warning by the women, not even BB. But I'm not going to lie, in the vast majority of cases a person like Marcello I would just ignore or treat less seriously because it's the worst possible response to give to someone seeking to compel validation. In the house, it's a bit different because I'm sure they feel compelled to respond to his behavior in some way, even if they have no real urge to do so negatively yet, since they're all technically "playing a game". It is in some ways in their interest to absorb the behavior until a Limit Break is reached... then maybe the ultimate summons can be coordinated amongst the women and a nice show can then be had for all... sometimes in real life when dealing with these things isolated, immediately calling out can just backfire and only encourages the behavior... hard to explain that, but I feel like the reason people like Marcello and his pathology exists is because they're so used to rejection, they practically see it coming ... but there really should be a point where none of that crap matters anyway.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Maru

I'm OK with being labeled a prude. Doesn't bother me either way. I value intimacy and so things like privacy are important. It makes all experiences in life feel the more precious.



Oh, I agree. I've made some jokes but it's just my sense of humor. He has not done anything that's worthy of being destroyed publicly for. My current thought is he is auditioning for a role on another show (preferably a sexier one, it seems). I can't blame anyone for not feeling comfortable though, but it's also BB's fault for giving us 15-30 minutes of back-to-back cringe. It's like they want TVs to get smashed...

Here's hoping one of the women grow a pair and correct him at some point, because it's frustrating watching him get in so many attempts with not so much as a basic warning by the women, not even BB. But I'm not going to lie, in the vast majority of cases a person like Marcello I would just ignore or treat less seriously because it's the worst possible response to give to someone seeking to compel validation. In the house, it's a bit different because I'm sure they feel compelled to respond to his behavior in some way, even if they have no real urge to do so negatively yet, since they're all technically "playing a game". It is in some ways in their interest to absorb the behavior until a Limit Break is reached... then maybe the ultimate summons can be coordinated amongst the women and a nice show can then be had for all... sometimes in real life when dealing with these things isolated, immediately calling out can just backfire and only encourages the behavior... hard to explain that, but I feel like the reason people like Marcello and his pathology exists is because they're so used to rejection, they practically see it coming ... but there really should be a point where none of that crap matters anyway.

Oh that's more than fair.

I'm just saying that Marcello could never play the "you're a prude" card with me, as I think that I can cross boundaries for some people with my sexual comments, and yet even I think that Marcello is pretty out there with his conduct.

And there's nothing wrong with joking about a Housemate's behaviour, after all in this particular case Marcello has kind of brought a lot of the attention on himself, so he can't complain too much that people are joking about his antics.

And I think if I were one of the women in the house, I would have to tell Marcello to **** off.

But like you've said, he hasn't done anything so bad that it ruins his life.

[Maru]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

Oh that's more than fair.

I'm just saying that Marcello could never play the "you're a prude" card with me, as I think that I can cross boundaries for some people with my sexual comments, and yet even I think that Marcello is pretty out there with his conduct.

Life's more interesting when boundaries can be unexpectedly "crossed", but it's all in how it is done and one has to observe the current time and place for it to know it's possible... it's obvious to me that art is all but lost on Marcello. It's like he needs to force everything to happen. The irony is that even less may happen... or whatever he does get out of it will be the lowest hanging fruit.

And I think if I were one of the women in the house, I would have to tell Marcello to **** off.

A woman can only dream.

But like you've said, he hasn't done anything so bad that it ruins his life.

Part of me thinks maybe they hold back from "letting it rip" because they know the actual ramifications of how things are edited, and thus perceived on the outside on social, can have very real ramifications for any one of them (including Marcello). Also, there's no way to tell how he'll actually react to be knocked down to the studs and they do have to live together with him and all...

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Maru

Life's more interesting when boundaries can be unexpectedly "crossed", but it's all in how it is done and one has to observe the current time and place for it to know it's possible... it's obvious to me that art is all but lost on Marcello. It's like he needs to force everything to happen. The irony is that even less may happen... or whatever he does get out of it will be the lowest hanging fruit.



A woman can only dream.



Part of me thinks maybe they hold back from "letting it rip" because they know the actual ramifications of how things are edited, and thus perceived on the outside on social, can have very real ramifications for any one of them (including Marcello). Also, there's no way to tell how he'll actually react to be knocked down to the studs and they do have to live together with him and all...

You make good points tbh.

And you're probably right that some of them are being careful in the house due to the ramifications if they take their reaction too far with him.

[GoldHeart]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

You make good points tbh.

And you're probably right that some of them are being careful in the house due to the ramifications if they take their reaction too far with him.

But all they have to do is dish out some of what he gives out ,and I don't mean flirt back ( he's more like cringe innuendos anyway) , but they should put him in his place in a witty way.

Everything they say to him , just turns back around for him to be suggestive again.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Maru

I'm OK with being labeled a prude. Doesn't bother me either way. I value intimacy and so things like privacy are important. It makes all experiences in life feel the more precious.



Oh, I agree. I've made some jokes but it's just my sense of humor. He has not done anything that's worthy of being destroyed publicly for. My current thought is he is auditioning for a role on another show (preferably a sexier one, it seems). I can't blame anyone for not feeling comfortable though, but it's also BB's fault for giving us 15-30 minutes of back-to-back cringe. It's like they want TVs to get smashed...

Here's hoping one of the women grow a pair and correct him at some point, because it's frustrating watching him get in so many attempts with not so much as a basic warning by the women, not even BB. But I'm not going to lie, in the vast majority of cases a person like Marcello I would just ignore or treat less seriously because it's the worst possible response to give to someone seeking to compel validation. In the house, it's a bit different because I'm sure they feel compelled to respond to his behavior in some way, even if they have no real urge to do so negatively yet, since they're all technically "playing a game". It is in some ways in their interest to absorb the behavior until a Limit Break is reached... then maybe the ultimate summons can be coordinated amongst the women and a nice show can then be had for all... sometimes in real life when dealing with these things isolated, immediately calling out can just backfire and only encourages the behavior... hard to explain that, but I feel like the reason people like Marcello and his pathology exists is because they're so used to rejection, they practically see it coming ... but there really should be a point where none of that crap matters anyway.

…oh I agree, Maru….I said a few days ago that this felt a bit like an audition process for Love Island and that he’s hoping to be in that island villa next year….he did say in his bio though that he was open to find a lady that he could just laugh and joke with and feel comfortably easy with…but he does seem to struggle with relating to females beyond their physical attraction …..