[LaLaLand]

Originally Posted by Holly Christmas

I hope you make a speedy and full recovery in 24 hours or 48 at a push.

Thinking of you x

Originally Posted by Pigeon Lady

…sleep is the best thing/recovery for your body …you’re on the right track with rehydration and sleep, I’m wishing for a Christmas Fay recovery for you too and for you to enjoy the time with your family……

Thanks both.

I’ve slept pretty much all day and I’m up now and feel much better. Bit of a headache and a cough but my appetite’s coming back.

Hopefully I’ll be all good by Wednesday.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Tom and amy fan

Normally yes but this is the first year without my grandma I'm very sad

I'm sorry to hear about that.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Quantum Bauble

Really sorry for your loss Mock.

I was 28 (11 years ago) when my mum died (she was 59), late 20's is still quite young to lose a parent, I find people don't really know how to place it, because it's neither the same as losing an elderly parent, nor the same as losing a parent in childhood/teens. Just a normal adult event - but one that came too soon. A weird middle ground.

The first few years were a bit odd, obviously everyone thinks more about family at Christmas, but it does start to become "normal" over time.

That said, my own kids were ages 4 and 2 on the first xmas after my mum's death, so I had that side of things to focus on as a distraction. Remember to talk to someone if you're feeling alone.

Thanks SB.

My maths is terrible btw as it is technically the second Christmas without my Mom, but I was thinking of this one as the first proper year where my family is going to try and feel festive, I just am not feeling it personally though.

And I'm sorry to hear about your Mom, and you're right about late 20's being still quite young to lose a parent, because tbh I wasn't really expecting it at all until it actually happened.

It's just definitely something that I will never forget, and certainly would never wish on anyone, I have honestly never felt grief like that before.

And thanks again SB, I know that I've been derailing the thread (which I do apologize for) but you guys on TIBB along with my family, are people that I feel that I can trust with telling you how I'm feeling.

Hopefully you and your family will have a great Christmas SB.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

It’s never a bad thing to share the good and the bad days
Because you will see who share your values

Last night my eyes filled with tears thinking about my mum but I had to push it to the back of my mind to stay strong

We are all different but all the same

It can be difficult to fight back the tears can't it?

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Pigeon Lady

…yeah, I understand and relate to that also, we lost my dad quite some years ago and it was never the same again…not for us and absolutely not for my mom who has now also passed…when we lost dad, it felt impossible to get through that sadness of thinking of him in death but whenever I think of him now, I think of him in life and I think of the laughter and the great times and the person he was…and that does bring joy…like a sweet to the bitter…your dad has you and your brother and that will help so much to give him that ‘cheer’ that you hope for him….what I’m trying to say is no, it won’t be the same but hopefully there’ll be many moments of smiles for you all as well in the person she was ….…

Thanks Ammi.

We are all trying to be there for each other, it's just I can tell that we're all still feeling it in different ways.

And I definitely like to think back to some of her funniest moments.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Holly Christmas

I'm having a little cry now, reading these posts. I generally get on with things at Christmas and I can't say I don't have a nice time with Karl and his mum, they make it lovely for me. But my heart isn't healed and I sometimes get emotional even now, 14 years after my mum passed and longer for my dad.

Bless you all.

Love Kate xx

I'm sorry to hear about both of your parents Kate.

I honestly would dread a day like that happening, or if for some reason I passed away before my Brother and my Dad, because I know that they would really struggle without both myself and my Mom.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Cherie Christmas

Oh Mock, there is no sugar coating it, this Christmas will be tough for you and your family, but you will get through it and there will be many first times until her anniversary and then you will start to heal gradually, but there will be moments something will remind you of her and it will catch you out and you just have to let the tears fall wherever you, sending you hugs Mock xxx

Thanks Cherie.

My Birthday was probably the worst for me, I didn't enjoy that at all.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Santa Goth

Thanks Ammi.

We are all trying to be there for each other, it's just I can tell that we're all still feeling it in different ways.

And I definitely like to think back to some of her funniest moments.

…you’ll all always feel it because when we love someone, we feel their loss because of everything they gave us …and that’s what we still hold always in our hearts…and with that, what we hold are all of those lovely memories and times that grief masks for a little while…but eventually they’ll become more and more what our memories are…not sadness but the joy that once given, will always be there too…

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Pigeon Lady

…you’ll all always feel it because when we love someone, we feel their loss because of everything they gave us …and that’s what we still hold always in our hearts…and with that, what we hold are all of those lovely memories and times that grief masks for a little while…but eventually they’ll become more and more what our memories are…not sadness but the joy that once given, will always be there too…

I hope that you're right Ammi.

[Gusto Brunt]

Originally Posted by Nicky91

we have christmas eve, 1st christmas day, 2nd christmas day here in my nation


we don't have boxing day


but tbh all the days leading up to new years eve are part of the christmas holiday time, for schools too i mean

When I was really young about 6 years old, I used to think Boxing Day was meant for a lot of boxing fights to be held.

[Gusto Brunt]

Originally Posted by Pigeon Lady

…our tradition on Christmas Day when the boys were children…?…has always been to open Christmas Tree gifts after lunch so that the day is extended out that bit longer in opening them and then exploring them would generally take well into the evening…

Yes I always remember Christmas celebrations going into the first week of January. But now it seems people are took quick to end it.

[Gusto Brunt]

Originally Posted by Holly Christmas

Yep I do enjoy it pretty much but it does feel flat when it's over, so quickly.

Miserable people want it over.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Gusto Brunt

When I was really young about 6 years old, I used to think Boxing Day was meant for a lot of boxing fights to be held.

It's called St Stephen's Day here in Ireland

[Gusto Brunt]

Originally Posted by ChristmasNeeve

It's called St Stephen's Day here in Ireland

Oh!

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Gusto Brunt

Miserable people want it over.

Excuse me, but where did I say I wanted it over? I didn't. Bit rude really. and I'm not miserable either. Quite the opposite. Insulted by that.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Waitrose car park is like a warzone

[Gusto Brunt]

Originally Posted by Holly Christmas

Excuse me, but where did I say I wanted it over? I didn't. Bit rude really. and I'm not miserable either. Quite the opposite. Insulted by that.

Nowhere does it say my comment refers to you.

It wasn't directed at you. I was referring to miserable people.

An apology please.

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Gusto Brunt

Nowhere does it say my comment refers to you.

It wasn't directed at you. I was referring to miserable people.

An apology please.

You quoted me then you said that? I'm obviously gonna think you meant me? So no apology here.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Christmas Dynamo

Waitrose car park is like a warzone

Serves you right ...you should have stuck with Aldi

I went to the butchers to pick up the bird, I left it until 4pm and there were just two people in front of me, apparently everyone had the same idea of going early and they were queuing around the block earlier in the day

Popped into Aldi, got a few bits and was out in 10 mins


Preparation and Organisation

[Niamh.]

Wasn't even too busy when I went back to the supermarket at 4pm for the drink

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by ChristmasNeeve

Wasn't even too busy when I went back to the supermarket at 4pm for the drink

Drink! Feck! Arse!

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Cherie Christmas

Serves you right ...you should have stuck with Aldi

I went to the butchers to pick up the bird, I left it until 4pm and there were just two people in front of me, apparently everyone had the same idea of going early and they were queuing around the block earlier in the day

Popped into Aldi, got a few bits and was out in 10 mins


Preparation and Organisation

I had to go in for Inches cider, J20 and the Spectator

[Beso]

Me.
Your bottom.
Xmas.


In any order all my TIBB companions want to take it

[user104658]

I'm not feeling Christmassy any more because we're fkn ill. .

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Quantum Bauble

I'm not feeling Christmassy any more because we're fkn ill. .

Aww