[Redway]

This thread’s been posted on Reddit recently but I think it’s a good fit for here, too; so here we go. Let’s ball.

We’re all human (painfully-so) and hence there ain’t one of us above being disliked (and, in-turn; disliking others) but there’s also a certain level of fundamental, basic respect that you can afford someone (respect for their dignity; their boundaries, spoken and unspoken; their humanity) whether you personally vibe with them or not, whether they’re personally your cup of tea, for whatever reason (conscious and subconscious alike). But if it’s a tug of war between like and basic respect, what you tugging towards your side? Does superficial social validation (or on sturdier principle, just a feeling of positive resonance between you and individual people in the world around you) eclipse fundamental respect (for your dignity, boundaries and overall humanity) or would you rather be disliked but fundamentally respected in that regard (not roped into toxic gossip or having your overall personhood disrespected or exploited from afar)? To what extent can someone, implicitly or explicitly, undermine your boundaries before you set yourself apart from their toxicity even if they say they actually like you otherwise?

[Mystic Mock]

I would prefer for people to dislike me but at least respect my boundaries and my beliefs, over people claiming that they like me but don't respect my opinion on anything.

But that's just me.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

I would prefer for people to dislike me but at least respect my boundaries and my beliefs, over people claiming that they like me but don't respect my opinion on anything.

But that's just me.

No, I absolutely agree with that.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Redway

No, I absolutely agree with that.

Just to clarify I wouldn't want to be disliked either.

But I would like to hope that people could at least trust my opinion on something, if I feel like my advice would help them.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

Just to clarify I wouldn't want to be disliked either.

But I would like to hope that people could at least trust my opinion on something, if I feel like my advice would help them.

I mean, yh, we’d all rather be liked but with 7 billion people on Earth, no-one’s going to be everyone’s cup of tea, for a variety of reasons. That’s just how life is. But it’s good for people to afford you a basic level of respect for and acknowledgement of your dignity, humanity and validity of certain opinions anyway, unless they give you a reason not to.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Redway

I mean, yh, we’d all rather be liked but with 7 billion people on Earth, no-one’s going to be everyone’s cup of tea, for a variety of reasons. That’s just how life is. But it’s good for people to afford you a basic level of respect for and acknowledgement of your dignity, humanity and validity of certain opinions anyway, unless they give you a reason not to.

I 100% agree.

[GoldHeart]

Depends entirely on the situations. I think we'd all like to be liked ,but we also live in the real world and not a land of unicorns , candyfloss & harps playing . So if I was disliked...but atleast respected then that's something I would prefer....rather than someone who likes you but oversteps boundaries. Some people think of they're your " friend" or " friendly" , that they can take advantage etc. it's also good to know where you stand with people .

[Redway]

Originally Posted by GoldHeart

Depends entirely on the situations. I think we'd all like to be liked ,but we also live in the real world and not a land of unicorns , candyfloss & harps playing . So if I was disliked...but atleast respected then that's something I would prefer....rather than someone who likes you but oversteps boundaries. Some people think of they're your " friend" or " friendly" , that they can take advantage etc. it's also good to know where you stand with people .

Yep, I absolutely agree. Like without basic respect for the person is a useless kind of like. We might-as-well be sworn enemies but at-least not grossly overstep boundaries.