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Originally Posted by Zippy

So far he sounds like a nuisance.

Problem is, when you throw words like stalker around it diminishes it's real meaning in serious cases. Like the word rape gets misused. People start taking it less seriously when it can ruin lives. Doesn't seem to be anywhere near that point yet in this case. She needs to be more blunt maybe. Or maybe she secretly likes his persistence? Some girls do but pretend otherwise. I know, Ive got two older sisters.

First of all you can have mild cases of stalker and extreme cases. This is how I define stalker, someone that is following you and keeps calling you.
Its not just when its life theatening, people have different ways of calling stuff... I dont know what else this person can be under. He IS a stalker in my eyes. And no because she's in a relationship, but she is scared to call him up because she cant speak very good Sicilian... she can speak good Italian though, but this bloke wont understand unless he gets a call from my parents.

And next, Rape is completely different. You cant put "rape" in a jokey term at all. People can say "Im being stalked!" in a jokey way as there are mild and extreme cases, but rape is rape, and is serious. Its completely different, no one would say they have been raped unless they have been stripped from their clothes and forced to have sex with someone.
Rape defenition cant be changed.