[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Ninastar

I often wonder something along the same lines as this. Like, if we were never told what we were expected to be, how would we end up? Would everyone be asexual? I think everyone would be pansexual, which is slightly different.

..yes, I agree..there are a lot of pressure from 'moulding' and feeling we should be a certain way. I have to admit, I don't know very much about it and wouldn't like to over simplify it.....but......I know when I was younger, I was led to believe, through books and films that 'Love' and 'Romance' was an ideal that didn't actually go beyond the bedroom door...LOL. It would have spolied the illusion and tbh, I was quite frightened at the thought of sex and thought it would destroy the perfect image in my mind. I can't say it is the same for romantic asexuals because genetice must come into it...but I wonder if it is partly emotional too...not exactly a 'Peter Pan' complex but a fear of shattering a dream.

[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..yes, I agree..there are a lot of pressure from 'moulding' and feeling we should be a certain way. I have to admit, I don't know very much about it and wouldn't like to over simplify it.....but......I know when I was younger, I was led to believe, through books and films that 'Love' and 'Romance' was an ideal that didn't actually go beyond the bedroom door...LOL. It would have spolied the illusion and tbh, I was quite frightened at the thought of sex and thought it would destroy the perfect image in my mind. I can't say it is the same for romantic asexuals because genetice must come into it...but I wonder if it is partly emotional too...not exactly a 'Peter Pan' complex but a fear of shattering a dream.

I think it's disgusting how much sex is shown on TV. I actually think it distorts younger peoples minds. I think it's the main reason of all the STD's going around. All of it should be kept behind closed doors. It's too 'out there' when really it should be kept private.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Ninastar

I think it's disgusting how much sex is shown on TV. I actually think it distorts younger peoples minds. I think it's the main reason of all the STD's going around. All of it should be kept behind closed doors. It's too 'out there' when really it should be kept private.

Peoples ideas on sexual "norms" do seem to follow what's going on in the media at the time, that's true enough.

[InOne]

Originally Posted by Ninastar

I think it's disgusting how much sex is shown on TV. I actually think it distorts younger peoples minds. I think it's the main reason of all the STD's going around. All of it should be kept behind closed doors. It's too 'out there' when really it should be kept private.

I think it would only distort a young persons mind if they were vunerable to being distorted anyway. It's up to the parents what they let them view and I think as long as there's good education about it then most will be ok. I'm in the view that upbringing doesn't affect sexuality at all. You're always going to be the sexuality you were born with.

[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by InOne

I think it would only distort a young persons mind if they were vunerable to being distorted anyway. It's up to the parents what they let them view and I think as long as there's good education about it then most will be ok. I'm in the view that upbringing doesn't affect sexuality at all. You're always going to be the sexuality you were born with.

Yeah I guess you're right, but a lot of new parents now have no idea. Just my opinion, but parenting isn't as strong as it used to be and I think it's only going to get worse.

The idea of sex that is thrown around right now is so wrong in my opinion. I think you should be exposed to it, but there is a limit and everything that is exposed now is way over that limit.

[InOne]

Originally Posted by Ninastar

Yeah I guess you're right, but a lot of new parents now have no idea. Just my opinion, but parenting isn't as strong as it used to be and I think it's only going to get worse.

The idea of sex that is thrown around right now is so wrong in my opinion. I think you should be exposed to it, but there is a limit and everything that is exposed now is way over that limit.

I do agree those parents who sit their kids infront of the TV all day and let them do whatever maybe more vunerable. Getting their sexual ideas from the TV probably isn't good. And sometimes it can be from a young age too. But as long as they don't live in a bubble then I guess they won't be too damaged, it's all about the right balance. Which sadly like you say, some parents don't give.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Ninastar

I think it's disgusting how much sex is shown on TV. I actually think it distorts younger peoples minds. I think it's the main reason of all the STD's going around. All of it should be kept behind closed doors. It's too 'out there' when really it should be kept private.

Originally Posted by InOne

I do agree those parents who sit their kids infront of the TV all day and let them do whatever maybe more vunerable. Getting their sexual ideas from the TV probably isn't good. And sometimes it can be from a young age too. But as long as they don't live in a bubble then I guess they won't be too damaged, it's all about the right balance. Which sadly like you say, some parents don't give.

I think sex has always been 'out there' to some extent...maybe not so much on TV, but in other ways. And it is a parent's responsibility to inform as much balance as they possibly can but they're not necessarily the one's their child would want any views from....after a certain age...if at all.
...I still think, with all the information from all the different sources...people will still be what they will be...I think that's basic nature
I think asexuality must be genetic...I'm just not sure whether it applies equally to 'romantic' and 'non romantic' asexuals...or why there are two types

[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by InOne

I do agree those parents who sit their kids infront of the TV all day and let them do whatever maybe more vunerable. Getting their sexual ideas from the TV probably isn't good. And sometimes it can be from a young age too. But as long as they don't live in a bubble then I guess they won't be too damaged, it's all about the right balance. Which sadly like you say, some parents don't give.

Yep I agree. Sadly it's becoming more common for this to happen though.