[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Would Gav not get the snip instead that's a much more simple procedure

Hes scared of it, as a friend had issues where it caused him a lot of pain for a long time. Also he wouldn't mind having an other kid, so I think it should be on me to ensure that I definitely will not given its me who is so sure I want no more

Also, I don't really trust vasectomies. I know two men who had them and then still got people pregnant afterwards :S Where I assume, the woman getting done is more effective

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Hes scared of it, as a friend had issues where it caused him a lot of pain for a long time. Also he wouldn't mind having an other kid, so I think it should be on me to ensure that I definitely will not given its me who is so sure I want no more

Also, I don't really trust vasectomies. I know two men who had them and then still got people pregnant afterwards :S Where I assume, the woman getting done is more effective

I think it's pretty rare for vasectomies to fail, are they sure it's their babies?

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I think it's pretty rare for vasectomies to fail, are they sure it's their babies?

Well one of these people was my dad Fairly sure my brother is my actual brother, never had a dna test done like.

The other actually did actually get a DNA test done and the poor woman...got grief from all angles for 'cheating'. They should have just left it a couple of years though as the kids the double of him now so a test was not needed

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Well one of these people was my dad Fairly sure my brother is my actual brother, never had a dna test done like.

The other actually did actually get a DNA test done and the poor woman...got grief from all angles for 'cheating'. They should have just left it a couple of years though as the kids the double of him now so a test was not needed

[DemolitionRed]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

OMG. I laughed so much when I saw Vicky's answer. Its so unlike you to put your foot in it

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I think it's pretty rare for vasectomies to fail, are they sure it's their babies?

Well I thought so too until we had a pregnancy scare this last fortnight and I looked it up! Apparently failures in the first year are 1%, which is low odds... But given that there are 10,000 done per year that's still 1000 failures. So it's not THAT rare . I think the risk of failure drops dramatically after the first year if there's still zero sperms count at that point. Most common reason for failure is basically that things are still healing and scar tissue still resolving and there's a chance of "channels" developing where sperms can get through, but after a year things are unlikely to change.

It was just a scare, no pregnancy after all. However on topic... If the very unlikely was to happen, we would definitely have to accept abortion as our option. I'm not 100% comfortable with abortion, I don't think it's "nothing" or routine like some people seem to, but our ciscumstances basically mean that another child would be a disaster. Not just hard, but permanently life altering in not good ways.