[Vicky.]

Women speaking out are still in the wrong though. Either they are blamed, accused of lying, or they were in the wrong for waiting so long to speak up. Or its minimized, made out to be over the top (see. the many people who start with the 'you cannot even say hello without being accused of sexual harassment' type people) or just them being humourless and not getting 'banter'..even if said 'banter' was actually clear sexual harrassment and/or assault. They are doing it for compensation/attention/to be spiteful and ruin an innocent blokes life. Etc

OR all of the above.

People assume the accusation is simply because they had sex and regretted it so it made sense to instead of just forget it, drag it out for months or years, reliving it over and over and telling numerous people a lot of very personal details. Going on about it in detail for a long time to many people is definitely what one would usually do if they simply regretted a bad decision they made. Because thats totally logical.

Then in court they are cross examined for days, treat as if its them who has committed a crime, their entire sexual history is brought up to try and discredit them becuse everyone knows that unless a woman is a virgin she cannot be raped and if she ever consented to sex with one man, this means she consents to all sex with all men. The fact that she was wearing a skirt, or had drank alcohol is used against her. There are more...but I could literally go on for hours and hours so I will end on the final most shocking one..finally, excuses such as 'I acidentally fell over onto a sleeping woman, naked, with an erecton and landed penis first in her vagina' are actually used and accepted in court as a defense.