[Tom4784]

While we're making changes on our side AND listening to criticism, I think it's only fair to expect some things to change from the members as well.

IF the appeals section is brought back (I've changed my tune on it and I really think Appeals should be brought back) people should have no excuse to bring up infractions or deleted posts in threads as we delete posts to clean threads and bringing either up just means we have to clean the thread again and again. My suggestion that, IF the appeals are brought back, we need an understanding with the members that they'll use that section to voice complaints (SENSIBLE COMPLAINTS!) and make appeals and that if they don't and they bring up infractions in the wrong place, they may be harshly infracted. Is this unreasonable? Members get an area to voice their concerns but they have to agree to keep it to that area and for it to not spill out across the forum.

Secondly, witch hunts against the mods need to stop, I think every long serving mod at this point (but particularly myself, Niamh and Vicky who have been targeted in the past by permabanned members) have experienced what feels like to be attacked from all sides, it doesn't feel good, it's not right and we don't deserve it. On Tuesday, I got into a heated discussion and when I realised it got heated, I decided to remove myself from the discussion, I was actually offline for most of the afternoon as I went to the Cinema (I watched Isle of Dogs, I'd highly recommend it) and to come back to see a deleted thread that had basically descended into insult after insult towards me was tough and it happened again last night.

'Dezzy' is not just a name on the internet, I am a human being, I make mistakes and I'm not perfect and I don't get paid to mod this website, none of us do, this is something we do in our free time. We are not professionals, we just do what we can. I don't want respect, I just want to be treated like a human being. If you are upset with me, talk to me over a PM or if you don't want to talk to me, voice your complaints in a reasonable manner to another mod or admin. I'll admit that I'm acerbic at times, you will never get me acting like a perfect customer service rep (I'll try to do better) but If you talk to me away from the drama and the theatrics and without hostility you will find that I'm a reasonable person that will make time to hear you out. Just talk to me, Don't make me feel like I felt yesterday, I felt like I was being hounded off the forum and no one should feel like that regardless of if they are a mod or a member. If you feel frustrated with me, bring it to me attention in a PM and we'll talk about it, just don't make me feel attacked from all sides. Is that unreasonable? Let me know.

This might kickstart an argument, i hope it doesn't but I felt like I needed to say this. Let's talk like the adults we are.