[Conzors]

ahaha
this is funny, not helping me but meh haha x

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Conzors

ahaha
this is funny, not helping me but meh haha x

..I think it'll be easier if you don't say too much because you might start to talk yourself our of it but just tell him that you think he's really nice but that you don't have the same feelings for him...

[Conzors]

ill try.
aaah
x

thanks people

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by Conzors

ill try.
aaah
x

thanks people

You're welcome.

[michael21]

i have a good idea make a videe on your phone of what you want to say then play it back if it sounds right then send it to him

#makethevidee

[Apple202]

#makethevidee


but seriously i agree with everyone else lol, you've given it a month and the feelings clearly haven't grown so you just need to tell him

[lostalex]

it sounds like you're just not that into him.

stop wasting your time and his.

as men we need to be excited by our partners, and it sounds like you aren't really excited by this guy, sounds like he's a damp squib. so what are you doing?

There's no reason for this. what is the reason? there's no reason. let it go, let him go. he'll be happier, you'll be happier, everybody wins.

let him be free to find a guy that actually finds him attractive, and you'll be free to find someone you are genuinely attracted to, everybody wins.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Conzors

Hey!

I've been dating this guy for about a month now and i'm not sure what to do.

I love his personality, its a bit too much at times and ott and can be a bit annoying but overall its fine.

He is just an average guy appearance wise, which also, i dont mind.

But over this month i just dont know how i feel about him and im scared ive been leading him on we have slept in a bed together and done stuff (not the whole thing) and its not really great haha but that doesnt bother me too much.

He's spent alot of money coming to see me (i have offered to go there but hes always insistant on coming here so i let him) he also gave me Ł40 when i lost my wallet and took me to see wicked etc.

He payed for a hotel room and that for me and the trains were ****ed so i couldnt go anyways but i just feel this is all a bit toooo much for someone whos been seeing eaach other since middle of january? and i told him we need to calm down and he needs to consult me before he books anything (as much as i loved the idea of a hotel and wicked etc he just needs to ask me first)

Ive just said to him that i do like him but we just need to chill a bit - but i dont really think i want to be with him anymore and i guess ive just thought that as time went on id like him more but i havent.

he is a really nice guy and i think i will miss him not being a part of my life but im scared that hes gonna be really upset if i tell him.

i have been distant from him lately and hes kept talking and i just dont know what to do

i do like him but i dont know aarrrhghghghghghg.

someone please help haha.

cheers.
xxxxx

Its funny becuase you think as a girl would.

A straight guy would think this after dating fior a month (see below)

[Conzors]

UPDATE 22/2/14

I know im making this sound really all about me and stuff but i went all the way to his to have 'the talk' and end it there and then and we did have a little argument about our expectations and our feelings of each other! But he was just pissing me off from the moment i saw him. Talking allll the time about stuff i've heard already and we talk everyday so when we see each other theres nothing to talk about (ive mentioned this to him)

AND THEN
just before i was about to say, i just dont think this is working out, HE PULLS OUT THIS VALENTINES CARD THAT SAYS.... 'WE MAKE A LOVELY PEAR, WITH TWO PEARS ON IT HOLDING HANDS' and then inside had a little message with TWO TICKETS TO THE HARRY POTTER STUDIO WORLD TOUR THING.

I love harry potter, and have already been to it but was saying to mum how i would LOVE to go again and he just bought them for me!

How on earth could i reject them and dump them, as they are non-returnable and he musta spent alot of money on them!

I would of felt so bad dumping him, so i didnt.

I still feel the same as i did before and NOW IM IN A BIG PICKLE I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO EVEN MORE.

I had my mind sent this morning that i was gonna end it and then look what happened!



I am a tad drunk right now, as we had a few pints at the pub before i left but OMG HELP.



x

[Vicky.]

Enjoy harry potter studio world I guess.

[Conzors]

but i wont enjoy it with him
well i will but hell annoy me!

ARHGHGHG

[Apple202]

have fun

[Z]

Vicky and I will start looking for wedding outfits now

[james130]

Yeah stick with for Harry Potter.
The second time I went was even better I think.

Lose him in the great hall or something...

But yeah sounds like a bit of an awkward situation and I never like to upset people so i'd feel the same.
But to all of us (I think) it seems that he's really not right for you and shouldn't be able to buy you with some tickets.
Sounds harsh, but maybe don't bother ending it face-to-face because you'll just end up in another situation again.
Maybe not quite a text but something like that maybe...

[anne666]

He sounds rather desperate to me. Buying/ guilt tripping you is very needy behaviour and not love. We have the results of that in your feelings right now. It's not your responsibility how he feels or reacts if you end this. He'll only keep on doing more of the same and you hardly sound enthusiastic about him. It will probably be much easier than you imagine. He's got you where he wants you right now.

[Cherie]

Honest opinion, it feels like you are using him! When he pulled out the Card and Tix, that was the perfect moment to go, okay this is what i am talking about, buying tickets for stuff we haven't even discussed going to together, much as I love HP and even though you are very kind and thoughtful to buy them, you will have to find someone else to go with as I am not comfortable with all this and it is too much too soon, You only met him in Jan I doubt he will be chucking himself off the nearest bridge if you tell him its over.

[Headie]

Send him a link to this thread

Originally Posted by Hayden

Send him a link to this thread

Agreed.

[Conzors]

Originally Posted by Cherie

Honest opinion, it feels like you are using him! When he pulled out the Card and Tix, that was the perfect moment to go, okay this is what i am talking about, buying tickets for stuff we haven't even discussed going to together, much as I love HP and even though you are very kind and thoughtful to buy them, you will have to find someone else to go with as I am not comfortable with all this and it is too much too soon, You only met him in Jan I doubt he will be chucking himself off the nearest bridge if you tell him its over.

I don't think i am using him because i have tried to have the conversation.
Using him would be to not have the conversation about anything.

I didnt not dump him then because of the tickets, i didnt because he bought them and i would of felt bad doing it when he bought me tickets!

[Iceman]

Well as much as you feel your not using him you are...and your not coming across well in any of this tbh....just finish it.

[Z]

You really should just end this now Conor, the longer it goes on the more difficult it'll be and he'll just continue to give you reasons to put it off until either you actually do like him or you feel so terrible that you'll end up moving country or something

[Conzors]

I know.
It's just a difficult situation that I've never been in before nor can handle that well.

[Z]

But by not handling it at all, you are just going to dig yourself into a deeper hole until you have to deal with it. Just deal with it now. Meet up with him in person and be honest with him. Don't wimp out of doing it and don't do it by text or online message either, he seems like a nice person from what you've said and I think you owe him an explanation, both for his sake and yours.

[Conzors]

He lives so far i cant just meet up with him.
I'll go up there tomorrow.
It's only fair.

[Vicky.]

If you really cant do it face to face though, its best to do it over the phone than carry on as you are...

Just to complicate things a bit more