[ThomasC]

Originally Posted by Kate!

He just disappeared totally out of the blue Cherie. Wiped me out of his social media etc. The whole kit and caboodle. It's like he's no longer on the planet.

There has to be more to this?

That doesn't just happen. There's a reason.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by ThomasC

There has to be more to this?

That doesn't just happen. There's a reason.

"cos we don't speak since my mum's funeral but that's another long story."

This would seem to hold the key to the reason

[arista]

I am

[Vanessa]

I'm sorry to hear that, Kate. Families are so complicated. I myself have lost touch with quite a few family members for various reasons.
I'm trying to keep in touch with my sister, because she's my twin and I genuinely love her more than anything.
I hope in time you and your son can get closer again

[Niamh.]

I echo Cherie here, don't give up trying to find and reconnect Kate

[Kate!]

@Niamh and Cherie. I've tried everything I can possibly do. Even used a charity called Reconnect. They found an address for him but its confidential and I don't get to know it. They wrote to him and asked him to get in touch but he didn’t.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Kate!

@Niamh and Cherie. I've tried everything I can possibly do. Even used a charity called Reconnect. They found an address for him but its confidential and I don't get to know it. They wrote to him and asked him to get in touch but he didn’t.

And you have no idea why at all?

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

And you have no idea why at all?

I have a couple of theories but that's all. Nothing concrete.

1. My brother and former sister in law who recently passed away have poisoned his mind against me cos we don't speak since my mum's funeral but that's another long story.

2. He wasn't happy that I moved in with Karl in Wigan. But I doubt that on its own would be enough for him to react that way?

[Lewismacfarlane]

Hey Kate u ok

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Lewismacfarlane

Hey Kate u ok

I'm alright Lewis. Have to get on with things. Thank you for asking xx

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by Kate!

I'm alright Lewis. Have to get on with things. Thank you for asking xx

Hope you're ok.

[Kate!]

I can't send him a card Cherie. The charity don't pass things on and there's no other way for me to contact him.

[ThomasC]

Originally Posted by Kate!

I can't send him a card Cherie. The charity don't pass things on and there's no other way for me to contact him.

Is there no one within your circle who can advocate on your behalf or know more details, friends, other family members?

Maybe you could start with trying to build bridges with your brother if they have turned him on you. I'm assuming he still has contact with his uncle?

I think deep down you know the reason why he doesn't want to see you or you have a good guess. You have to be truthful to yourself and admit that fault, if there is one.

Did you tell him you were moving in with Karl? He would only have been 21 so that's a huge decision to make if you didn't involve him. Does his father have contact with him? Is the father Karl? Does your son feel abandoned? Why was he not happy you moved in with Karl? Was your son living with you? How far away was it? Did you ditch him for Karl? What happened at the funeral?

Just trying to understand the much bigger picture to offer you some advice.

Ask yourself these questions.

I think you might be able to do something about this if you are able to identify exactly why he does not want to see you.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by ThomasC

Is there no one within your circle who can advocate on your behalf or know more details, friends, other family members?

Maybe you could start with trying to build bridges with your brother if they have turned him on you. I'm assuming he still has contact with his uncle?

I think deep down you know the reason why he doesn't want to see you or you have a good guess. You have to be truthful to yourself and admit that fault, if there is one.

Did you tell him you were moving in with Karl? He would only have been 21 so that's a huge decision to make if you didn't involve him. Does his father have contact with him? Is the father Karl? Does your son feel abandoned? Why was he not happy you moved in with Karl? Was your son living with you? How far away was it? Did you ditch him for Karl? What happened at the funeral?

Just trying to understand the much bigger picture to offer you some advice.

Ask yourself these questions.

I think you might be able to do something about this if you are able to identify exactly why he does not want to see you.

yep

[arista]

Hang in the there Kate
it is not nice to have this done

[Mystic Mock]

I'm sorry to hear this Kate.

I honestly think that every family has some drama to some extent, especially when things like new partners come into the fold.

[rusticgal]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

I'm sorry to hear this Kate.

I honestly think that every family has some drama to some extent, especially when things like new partners come into the fold.

Yup…sadly.

[Vanessa]

I know. Sometimes I wish I didn't have any family and in was all by myself.
I love them all, but not the drama that comes with it.