[lily.]

Originally Posted by Santa-gnome-ears

Try telling my hubby that

And mine. lol

[Nemo123]

What's happened to disagreement here?

[Me. I Am Salman]

[lily.]

Christ, this is a stoory thread from 2009...

[Jessica.]

Originally Posted by lily.

Christ, this is a stoory thread from 2009...

What is a stoory?

[lily.]

stoory = dusty

I meant it like it had been in a dusty corner for 4 and a half years, and someone resurrected it.

[Z]

A Jessica special

[Jessica.]

Originally Posted by The baby Zeesus

A Jessica special

Are you saying I'm dusty?

[Livia]

Originally Posted by lily.

Following on from the indecent proposal (lol)...

What age gap do you personally think you'd be comfortable with in a relationship?

This debate isn't about what you think is right for other people, but what you think is right for yourself.

I'd say 5 years either way would be ok for me, but I doubt I'd go beyond that.

Missed that... I miss all the good stuff.

I'd say 5 years is pretty reasonable. But I have dated someone younger than me, and someone quite a bit older... It all depends how old the other person is mentally and how good a nick they're in.

[lily.]

Liv...

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Feel free to bump it if you can be bothered to read through 4 pages of mostly me, Girth and Baz lol

[Nemo123]

A few years ago I was in what can only be described as a slap-shod brothel in Lagos in the western Algarve in Portugal. Anyhow, over the course of 2 nights I spent hours in the company of one girl. She was a bit dippy, maybe on drugs, who knows? I was offered a gorgeous 19 year old, as I sat in her company, but she was so nice and I wasn't going to jump ships after I had spent so much emotional time, note: not money, because it would not have made any difference to my bill. Anyway, in the context of this discussion, she was nearly twice the age of her flatmate, as it happened. And they were equally lovely. Note, equally gorgeous, 19 and 35.
So, although I was tempted, I didn't jump ship, and I'm glad I didn't.

[james130]

I'd go 5 years either way and that's about it.
Only once i'm 23 aswell.
Couldn't go for anyone under 18.
Would just seem so wrong!

[smeagol]

age does not matter and should not matter. people are far to obsessed with age.
what matters is the person. the personality the way they look and act.
its sad when you see people put restrictions on the people they will date whether its age race or circumstance. as they are blinding themselves closing them selves of to possible love or good times.

whats interesting is those that do would date a older famous person or younger in a heartbeat. how many would turn beckam down lol or demi moore ?

[Jords]

age gaps = differing interests = in the end will NOT work

Also it is not nice to think your partner will die and youll still be a middle-aged wo/man seeking another life partner.

Shouldnt be no more than 10 years ideally.

[Z]

Originally Posted by Elf Ears

age gaps = differing interests = in the end will NOT work

Also it is not nice to think your partner will die and youll still be a middle-aged wo/man seeking another life partner.

Shouldnt be no more than 10 years ideally.

Yeah I think that's the thing that bothers me the most - even if the relationship lasted despite the likelihood that you'll want different things from life at different times if there's a large age gap; the chances are, one of you is going to die and the other one is still going to have many years of life left and they're either going to spend the rest of their life alone or try to find someone new... maybe it's a bit old fashioned but I think most people want to end up with someone, spend their lives together and then, although nobody wants to die, ideally you're not going to lose your partner and be alone for long, you know? It's a bit grim but I suppose most people would rather die with the one they love than be the one left behind to pick up the pieces and grieve...

[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by The baby Zeesus

Yeah I think that's the thing that bothers me the most - even if the relationship lasted despite the likelihood that you'll want different things from life at different times if there's a large age gap; the chances are, one of you is going to die and the other one is still going to have many years of life left and they're either going to spend the rest of their life alone or try to find someone new... maybe it's a bit old fashioned but I think most people want to end up with someone, spend their lives together and then, although nobody wants to die, ideally you're not going to lose your partner and be alone for long, you know? It's a bit grim but I suppose most people would rather die with the one they love than be the one left behind to pick up the pieces and grieve...

I can't agree...you could lose your partner at any age, so that doesn't really stack up. You can't choose who you fall in love with based on their life expectancy. I was with a guy a lot older than me and he was by far the kid in the relationship...he is the eternal Peter Pan...he is now blissfully married o someone 19 years his junior

[Z]

Originally Posted by Angel~Annie

I can't agree...you could lose your partner at any age, so that doesn't really stack up. You can't choose who you fall in love with based on their life expectancy. I was with a guy a lot older than me and he was by far the kid in the relationship...he is the eternal Peter Pan...he is now blissfully married o someone 19 years his junior

Oh I know, you can't plan for the unexpected - that's life; but for me personally I just couldn't knowingly commit to someone who was, I dunno, 15 years+ my senior, knowing that if we both lived healthy, normal lives; they would likely die long before I did. It would be so difficult to just... start again, meet someone new, when you're at that age, and I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life alone and mourning forever.

[thesheriff443]

for men every five beers takes ten years off a women's age

[lily.]

My dad is 10 years older than my mum, and we lost her this year.

The weird thing about it is that I always expected to lose dad first. It just shows that you can't really predict these things.

As long as both people are adults, if they love each other, they should be together. You never know how long you have, and you only have one life to live.

[AnnieK]

Originally Posted by lily.

My dad is 10 years older than my mum, and we lost her this year.

The weird thing about it is that I always expected to lose dad first. It just shows that you can't really predict these things.

As long as both people are adults, if they love each other, they should be together. You never know how long you have, and you only have one life to live.

I'm sorry to hear that

I agree, age is but a number, happiness is priceless...

[lily.]

Thanks Annie. It's been a difficult year. Dad is having to adjust to life without her.. it's so sad.

[AnnieK]

That must be so tough....my dad would be completely lost without my mum...I must be awful or you too, grieving but worrying about your dad too...

[Z]

Anna Nicole Smith and J. Howard Marshall is an example. Jury's out on whether they actually loved each other but he died in 1995, aged 90, when she was 28 years old. I mean I just couldn't do that. His wife of 30 years died in 1991 and then he was old and lonely so he married this young girl 14 months before he died. That man is the perfect example of my hang ups - you marry someone you love but they die, you're alone, you try find someone new but you're so old it's just not likely that you're going to find someone who could ever match what you had with the person you wanted to spend your life with so you end up dating someone much younger than you... ah I dunno. Obviously that's an extreme example but yeah, I'd rather date someone in my age range (now that I'm 22, I'd go 20-25 maybe)...

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by The baby Zeesus

Oh I know, you can't plan for the unexpected - that's life; but for me personally I just couldn't knowingly commit to someone who was, I dunno, 15 years+ my senior, knowing that if we both lived healthy, normal lives; they would likely die long before I did. It would be so difficult to just... start again, meet someone new, when you're at that age, and I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life alone and mourning forever.

Originally Posted by The baby Zeesus

Anna Nicole Smith and J. Howard Marshall is an example. Jury's out on whether they actually loved each other but he died in 1995, aged 90, when she was 28 years old. I mean I just couldn't do that. His wife of 30 years died in 1991 and then he was old and lonely so he married this young girl 14 months before he died. That man is the perfect example of my hang ups - you marry someone you love but they die, you're alone, you try find someone new but you're so old it's just not likely that you're going to find someone who could ever match what you had with the person you wanted to spend your life with so you end up dating someone much younger than you... ah I dunno. Obviously that's an extreme example but yeah, I'd rather date someone in my age range (now that I'm 22, I'd go 20-25 maybe)...

..yeah, like you said, I think Anna Nicole Smith and J Howard Marshall is an extreme example though...and I guess like anything else, it's just a personal preference and no different from..do you prefer blonde/brunette...tall people/shorter people etc..I can't think of any examples lol...some people are naturally attracted to older people or younger people..same age people etc as a general thing but then, they may meet someone who doesn't fit into that and it could be an attraction much stronger than anything else they have felt and the person they want to be with...and I guess for them to not pursue that wouldn't make sense in that they wouldn't think...oh, I usually like blondes and you're not blonde, so go away...it's interesting what you said though, that you wouldn't want to spend the rest of your life mourning someone, if you were left without them...but if you met someone and they were much older and you denied/walked away from that because of their age..(if they were much older..)..would you not then be spending your life mourning them because you'd denied someone who could have made you happy..?..but I guess the difference would be that you would have also denied being left with beautiful memories of them as well, which in the end is all any of us have and something that I just would never ever want to be without....

[Z]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..yeah, like you said, I think Anna Nicole Smith and J Howard Marshall is an extreme example though...and I guess like anything else, it's just a personal preference and no different from..do you prefer blonde/brunette...tall people/shorter people etc..I can't think of any examples lol...some people are naturally attracted to older people or younger people..same age people etc as a general thing but then, they may meet someone who doesn't fit into that and it could be an attraction much stronger than anything else they have felt and the person they want to be with...and I guess for them to not pursue that wouldn't make sense in that they wouldn't think...oh, I usually like blondes and you're not blonde, so go away...it's interesting what you said though, that you wouldn't want to spend the rest of your life mourning someone, if you were left without them...but if you met someone and they were much older and you denied/walked away from that because of their age..(if they were much older..)..would you not then be spending your life mourning them because you'd denied someone who could have made you happy..?..but I guess the difference would be that you would have also denied being left with beautiful memories of them as well, which in the end is all any of us have and something that I just would never ever want to be without....

I'm quite pragmatic when it comes to dating though, like I could have dated someone when I lived in Germany who was interested but I said no because I knew that it would have to end when I moved back home again so I didn't get into it in the first place. I wouldn't mourn something I never had in the first place - if I really liked someone but I felt that, practically, it wouldn't work... I would always walk away from that situation. I wouldn't ever want to throw myself into a situation that I know would only end in heartbreak for me.