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Originally Posted by The baby Zeesus

Oh I know, you can't plan for the unexpected - that's life; but for me personally I just couldn't knowingly commit to someone who was, I dunno, 15 years+ my senior, knowing that if we both lived healthy, normal lives; they would likely die long before I did. It would be so difficult to just... start again, meet someone new, when you're at that age, and I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life alone and mourning forever.

Originally Posted by The baby Zeesus

Anna Nicole Smith and J. Howard Marshall is an example. Jury's out on whether they actually loved each other but he died in 1995, aged 90, when she was 28 years old. I mean I just couldn't do that. His wife of 30 years died in 1991 and then he was old and lonely so he married this young girl 14 months before he died. That man is the perfect example of my hang ups - you marry someone you love but they die, you're alone, you try find someone new but you're so old it's just not likely that you're going to find someone who could ever match what you had with the person you wanted to spend your life with so you end up dating someone much younger than you... ah I dunno. Obviously that's an extreme example but yeah, I'd rather date someone in my age range (now that I'm 22, I'd go 20-25 maybe)...

..yeah, like you said, I think Anna Nicole Smith and J Howard Marshall is an extreme example though...and I guess like anything else, it's just a personal preference and no different from..do you prefer blonde/brunette...tall people/shorter people etc..I can't think of any examples lol...some people are naturally attracted to older people or younger people..same age people etc as a general thing but then, they may meet someone who doesn't fit into that and it could be an attraction much stronger than anything else they have felt and the person they want to be with...and I guess for them to not pursue that wouldn't make sense in that they wouldn't think...oh, I usually like blondes and you're not blonde, so go away...it's interesting what you said though, that you wouldn't want to spend the rest of your life mourning someone, if you were left without them...but if you met someone and they were much older and you denied/walked away from that because of their age..(if they were much older..)..would you not then be spending your life mourning them because you'd denied someone who could have made you happy..?..but I guess the difference would be that you would have also denied being left with beautiful memories of them as well, which in the end is all any of us have and something that I just would never ever want to be without....