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03-06-2018, 06:36 PM | #26 | |||
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03-06-2018, 06:46 PM | #27 | |||
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03-06-2018, 09:52 PM | #28 | ||
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Hmmmmm it depends on how well she knows the guy she did it to, to be honest. Like I have friends who I know would find this hilarious, but also friends (and also, myself) who wouldn't like it at all.
If she knew he wouldnt feel personally violated, and he DIDN'T feel personally violated, then I don't really know what the problem is . |
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03-06-2018, 10:01 PM | #29 | |||
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She should have just said that she ran through fields of wheat.
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03-06-2018, 10:03 PM | #30 | |||
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03-06-2018, 11:13 PM | #31 | |||
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Some people do like these inappropriate pranks though. Even grown adults...
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03-06-2018, 11:27 PM | #32 | |||
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I remember in school, the girls had this game where they would slap the ass of the girl(s) who were in the stalls adjacent to them... they had to be told to stop, because we would never know who it was because of the way the stall was laid out... anyway, I thought it was so rich later when they would pick on the introverted girls who were too quiet at the table and ask them if they were lesbians because they wouldn't indulge in the games/chats about other boys... like not being macho enough, but for young girls... I'm like really, you like to slap other girl's asses... also, that's not even your business what their sexuality is... this was in the late 90's. Stupid stupid people. Last edited by Maru; 03-06-2018 at 11:27 PM. |
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03-06-2018, 11:31 PM | #33 | |||
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Thats a pretty standard human boundary. Dont pay people to assault others.
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04-06-2018, 07:18 AM | #34 | ||
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I mean surely we can't be saying that there are no blurry definitions when it comes to assault and differing personal relationships. E.g. If my wife grabs my crotch or I hug her from behind and get a cheeky boobie squeeze... That is clearly not sexual assault? But if one of us did that to a stranger or coworker it obviously would be. Unless we're going to go down the route where everyone is supposed to ask for explicit permission every time they touch someone they have a close personal relationship with (I have seen this suggested online; it's ludicrous). That may go without saying for partners but its a more complicated area for friends. E.g. I had a Uni housemate who was a good friend and he used to love to "bed invade" (jump in bed with housemates half dressed ) and as he knew us / we were all close this couldn't in any way be called assault. If he had gone into the house next door and jumped in with a stranger or vague acquaintance... Yes probably assault. Or... I've seen lots of groups of female friends who think nothing of grabbing each other's boobs. Not assault. If they jumped the bar and grabbed the barmaids boobs... Yes assault. I'm struggling to see why it doesn't apply here; if her and the guy she pranked are close enough for her to know almost certainly that he will not feel sexually assaulted, and he DIDN'T feel sexually assaulted, then it isn't sexual assault? Whether or not a person has been assaulted is SURELY up to the discretion of that person? |
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04-06-2018, 07:44 AM | #35 | |||
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why do you need to post something that silly you know you would get a negative backlash dummy
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04-06-2018, 08:57 AM | #36 | ||
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I think in these days of #metoo etc things that may have been half acceptable between friends as a joke years ago just aren’t anymore.
It doesn’t send out the right message these days.Specially not publicly. Would people be accepting of it if he’d hired someone to grab her by the pussy? Obviously not.Assault is assault be it on a man or a woman. |
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04-06-2018, 09:16 AM | #37 | |||
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...for me yes it is James...Rosanne stated something that could and inevitably would be deemed as racist...(..I guess these debates go on as to whether her intentions were racist...)...but it was undoubtedly a racist thing to say...so she left herself open for criticism and to be ‘labelled’...and for backlash, which she’s received...Demi has also stated something that she did, her actions not her words that have equally and inevitably left her open to criticism and backlash...there’s no difference really to me...what anyone says, what anyone does etc within the privacy of homes/friendships/familiars etc...by definition isn’t really open to criticism in the same way as stating something publicly on a social site thing...Rosanne could have stated the same in her own home and within her own trusted circle type thing, that’s her freedom...Demi could have pranked a friend in the same way...and no ‘backlash’...but inevitably there will be that backlash in the making public of....
....as to ‘sexual assault’, well that would have to be accused to become that, surely....and I presume he didn’t accuse ...so technically no sexual assault but equally she left herself open to the accusation being made and it would have been a justified accusation imo... ...at the very least it was a really poor judgement I feel, even if it was someone she knew and was just a prank...how did the lady get access to his room to be able to surprise him and make that physical contact...?...did the hotel staff give him a key or let him in or did Demi also have a key which she gave to the lady.....?...hmmmm...and as he was her bodyguard, I would presume a high likelihood of having an armed weapon and a ‘quick and instinctive’ reaction...what if he had used that weapon..(...or physically assaulted the lady in some way in his shock...)...a really poor judgement whichever way I think....which could have led to ‘inevitable’ charges against her... |
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04-06-2018, 09:20 AM | #38 | |||
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04-06-2018, 09:36 AM | #39 | ||
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He’d be a sick,pervy barstuard,a creep,a rapist in the making,he’d lose his job and possibly be arrested. |
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04-06-2018, 10:57 AM | #40 | ||
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Again, it's up to each individual to decide what they're OK with in their interpersonal relationships and I find this idea that there should be a "standard" that everyone has to comply with really quite worrying . If two friends are explicitly OK with "extreme pranking" each other in private then that is entirely their own business and there's very little more to say about it than that.
I can agree with the public aspect, in which case, her mistake was tweeting publicly about it instead of keeping it a private prank between friends. Last edited by Toy Soldier; 04-06-2018 at 10:58 AM. |
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04-06-2018, 10:59 AM | #41 | |||
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04-06-2018, 11:06 AM | #42 | |||
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04-06-2018, 11:36 AM | #43 | |||
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I can see where you're coming from with some of that Ammi, especially in regards to the safety of the person she hired, that may have been pretty reckless on her part. Their working relationship etc. is again in my opinion something that shouldn't be assumed; it MIGHT be a power discrepancy, but that can't necessarily be assumed, and again is really down to the individuals involved. If he doesn't feel at the mercy of a power discrepancy, and isn't adjusting or altering his behaviour or reaction based on a power discrepancy... then there is no meaningful power discrepancy. The assumption that there is one again seems like people saying "Well *I personally* think there is one or should be one and therefore there is one". No, none of anyone's business unless the person involved has a problem with it.
Also as a final thought... while I agree that there are other potential problems with her "prank" - it is specifically the "sexual assault" aspect that the Social Media Lynchmob has gotten hung up on with this one, and that is what she's being accused of. In my opinion, there's something really quite sinister and potentially psychologically dangerous about insisting "You Were Sexually Assaulted!" to someone who in no way feels like they have been sexually assaulted. |
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04-06-2018, 12:44 PM | #45 | |||
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...yeah I do see that there was a relationship within work which made her feel as though she could prank him in such a way...I understand that TS...but whatever the relationship/friendship etc was...it doesn’t change the fact that she’s essentially his employer so their not ‘equal status’ people, you know...as in using the comparison you did with regard to your friends and uni days...?...The was ‘equality’ there and with that it’s much easier to ‘make boundaries’..do you see...this is something quite different because no matter what the relationship, she had a position of power over him...I guess much like Rosanne’s Employers did over her...so there was backlash or repercussions ...that’s the power employers have...and in ‘freaking the heck out of him’ as she said, that was Demi’s power...it was quite poor judgement I feel in this particular thing, so much should have been considered in any potential ‘backlash’...potential outcome etc... ......your last bit...well, that’s what we do though, that’s what we all do....hmmm,....’that’s technically sexual abuse’, ‘harassment’, ‘bullying/targeting’ etc...we must all be quite sinister people I reckon...... |
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04-06-2018, 12:46 PM | #46 | |||
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...well especially on tweets in response to these kind of things...we never do it on TiBB, oh no....would we ever....nope...
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04-06-2018, 09:06 PM | #47 | |||
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04-06-2018, 09:14 PM | #48 | |||
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04-06-2018, 10:31 PM | #49 | |||
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People trying to insert themselves into other people's situations and trying to micro-manage that... just like I would tell someone to back off if they wanted me to do something that risked me or my well-being, I would tell that person to mind their own business... (but more often just ignore probably). A lot of things in life involve some form of risk. Relationships especially, when they go bad can invite trouble... so I don't think creating drama is ideal.. but for some folk, that is the only way they can learn some important life skill, is through risk... not every relationship is how we think it is.. so I think better to stay out altogether. Anyway this was recent but at my husbands work, one of the sargeants overheard a conversation between him, the staff and another female coworker... another male coworker had given her some gifts he had gotten for her when he was out of town. He inserted himself into the situation, asked if he needed to have a conversation with him... she said no, its fine. Anyway, later that sargeant pulled him aside in the office and told him that he had made another coworker uncomfortable, created a hostile environment, etc... put a lot of words in her mouth. He was very upset because he had didn't know what he did... was really nothing, she had to explain to him later that that wasn't really the case at all, he did nothing wrong. Anyway, created a very uncomfortable situation for all involved where otherwise there was none. |
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Or the field or organization setup may not be your typical. For example, employees for a radio show or a group of comedians who frequently employ humor as part of their daily write-ups... who need to be "on point" when the moment arrives to deliver on those more uniquely expressive charismatic traits... if the boss were too stiff, then they may be too uncomfortable with going outside the box... kind of like if Bill Gates ran a comedy club... it would be very awkward. Another situation, if that job was a hospital ward. Sometimes pranks help to break up the seriousness of those atmospheres... especially if it's triage. Of course, those people are heavily trained in sensitivity training... so they would better know the lines not to push... in my husband's job, which at times is similar to triage at times (similar, not really one in the same)... there's a lot of dark humor that comes with that work. But it's part of the job... other times, they're expected to be on the straight and narrow, and with all the trauma in those environments and the situations they are exposed to, little gestures or breaks in the seriousness of that environment are a real Godsend... especially if it's an inside joke, one that only your peers would know and get... might be the reason why some people can go further with their jokes as they understand that boundary in a mutual way... and so on. I don't like black humor and I can see where that might freak someone out... but I totally get it when you're confronted with life & death situations on a daily basis... it's part of the job. Anyway, we need a Freedom to laugh and not take ourselves so seriously amendment to the constitution... society needs more humor, not less. Last edited by Maru; 04-06-2018 at 11:52 PM. |
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