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Originally Posted by Livia
A couple of weeks after my husband died I received an email from Aviva to my account, addressed to him, asking what would happen if he died with no life insurance. The fact that both our lives had been insured with Aviva for years and that I'd told them that he had died. This sh1t happens. It's upsetting at the time but it's laziness rather than vindictiveness.
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...something similar (ish) happened when my dad died, Liv...it was the day after he died...it wasn’t a big ‘faceless’ company like PayPal or Aviva...it was to do with a holiday he and my mum had booked, the details aren’t really important...but from very young ages, we’re all familiar with anger...anger is something we can cope with more than grief...those crippling feelings of grief for a close loved one is something we don’t experience much in our lives, compared to anger...so at the time, I felt so many emotions...from thinking this person who valued the dollar more than a human life and the grief a family was going through was just the lowest of the low in terms of their character...to thinking I would go right up there and punch him on the nose...anyway, I think it was just really that distracting and focusing from my grief was just easier to cope with in those angry moments...?...I had never lost a dad before so all kinds of feelings I wasn’t ready to face yet...if I had faced them at the time, if I had not had that anger to divert my focus...?...maybe I would never have stood up again...maybe I would never have found a way to put one step in front of another...I probably would but it would have been much more difficult...the pain of losing someone so close and so loved is just so unbearable...
...anyways my dad used to always (annoyingly) say....’things happen for a reason’...that was kind of one of his life philosophies...and really he was right...that demand for money because death is no excuse for unpaid bills, type thing...helped me in having something I could focus more familiar angry feelings into....without that and with only feelings of loss...?...well, I’m just so thankful that there wasn’t a ‘without that’...don’t you hate it when a parent is always right...
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...atm this poor guy has and has had something to focus on with PayPal and being angry with PayPal...at a time when grief may have been all consuming for him with the loss of his wife...so yeah, things do sometimes happen for a reason....?....’the greed of others can help you’...