[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Are they being dismissed, though? She hasn't made any statement about how she's feeling, publicly has been supportive. Of course that MAY not be the case behind closed doors, but until she says otherwise there's nothing to say? In fact it would be quite disrespectful to her to say "Well I know you're saying one thing, but I personally believe you must really secretly be devastated and I feel sorry for you".

If she WAS to state that she's been left devastated and everyone was still celebrating Philip whilst ignoring her feelings, that would be a completely different scenario...

But that hasn't happened. Currently, people think she needs help and support because THEY think she "must" be feeling a certain way. It's just projection. "Well I would feel _____, so..."

...and this......the first reaction that we would usually have if it were our own circle of friends ..(...or I would...)...would be...’how do you feel...’..?...unless I had already been made aware of that from them...without that, there is no starting point to make any assumptions...other than what’s she’s said, which is expressing her love and support ...