[Redway]

Are you the sort-of person who couldn’t have any-less hesitation about your friends (from intimate besties to casual-buddies/acquaintances) knowing the ins-and-outs of whatever health-issues (mental/psychological or general-medication) you might have or do you naturally-value privacy/tight personal-discretion?

[Crimson Dynamo]

is English your first language?

[Oliver_W]

Ish.

I don't wanna become one of those ghastly ghouls who are always talking about their problems but my prpblems have gotten worse fairly quickly in the last couple of years, so I sometimes need to explain stuff

Though I wouldn't really go into specifics.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

is English your first language?

Have you got a problem with advanced reading-comprehension or something?

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Redway

Have you got a problem with advanced reading-comprehension or something?

With its definition. Yes

[Redway]

Moving swiftly-on from L.T.’s bait (and there was me thinking he’d almost turned a corner):

Originally Posted by Oliver_W

Ish.

I don't wanna become one of those ghastly ghouls who are always talking about their problems but my prpblems have gotten worse fairly quickly in the last couple of years, so I sometimes need to explain stuff

Though I wouldn't really go into specifics.

I get that you might need to explain stuff but even at that you want to be careful how much you divulge because some people only ask or show curiosity because they’re looking for gossip or someone to feel better-than, not because they have your best interests at-heart or are even remotely-concerned about your welfare. Other than employers and family you don’t owe anyone an explanation about your health-issues. It’s not really their business.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

With its definition. Yes

k.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Redway

Moving swiftly-on from L.T.’s bait (and there was me thinking he’d almost turned a corner):



I get that you might need to explain stuff but even at that you want to be careful how much you divulge because some people only ask or show curiosity because they’re looking for gossip or someone to feel better-than, not because they have your best interests at-heart or are even remotely-concerned about your welfare. Other than employers and family you don’t owe anyone an explanation about your health-issues. It’s not really their business.

Eh?

[Redway]

Does someone expressing a less-negative stance on B.L.M. bother you that-much?

[Redway]

I know you’re just looking for a reaction but there’s a way to bait without coming-across as a confused, bigoted thicko. You do know that, don’t you?

[thesheriff443]

Men should definitely talk more about health problems and symptoms
Too many men are still dying because of being too embarrassed to talk about things.

I have an enlarged prostate thankfully not cancerous
Having three men in the room and a female nurse rubbing my arm as I had a camera down the end of my nob and then a finger in my bum and then a bloody prob up my bum and the nurse saying isn’t amazing that they can measure the size of your prostate with that prob.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

Men should definitely talk more about health problems and symptoms
Too many men are still dying because of being too embarrassed to talk about things.

I have an enlarged prostate thankfully not cancerous
Having three men in the room and a female nurse rubbing my arm as I had a camera down the end of my nob and them a finger in my bum and then a bloody prob up my bum and the nurse saying isn’t amazing that they can measure the size of your prostate with that prob.

Male ego is insecure and nonsensical, that I’m agreed-on, but between both sexes it can be hard opening-up about personal matters in general when you’re surrounded by people who don’t seem to value privacy. If you’ve found a lump or developed a heart-condition that you’d rather keep mostly to yourself, the last thing you’re going to want is people you don’t even know that-well speculating and gossiping about you and your health-status.

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Redway

Male ego is insecure and nonsensical, that I’m agreed-on, but between both sexes it can be hard opening-up about personal matters in general when you’re surrounded by people who don’t seem to value privacy. If you’ve found a lump or developed a heart-condition that you’d rather keep mostly to yourself, the last thing you’re going to want is people you don’t even know that-well speculating and gossiping about you and your health-status.

I think privacy is a problem in younger age groups.

Older people know the damage gossip can have on a person.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

I think privacy is a problem in younger age groups.

Older people know the damage gossip can have on a person.

You say that but it’s not-always the case, sadly. Obviously, seasoned-adults in their 50s and 60s on average are going to be more reliable than some obnoxiously-outgoing 20-year-old lad with unchecked/undiagnosed A.D.H.D. but I think gossip and intrusion of other people’s private lives is an issue (to varying degrees, of-course) with all age-groups.

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Redway

You say that but it’s not-always the case, sadly.

I can only speak from my own circle of friends
If you tell someone something in confidence and they talk then they should no longer be classed as a friend.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

I can only speak from my own circle of friends
If you tell someone something in confidence and they talk then they should no longer be classed as a friend.

True. I have zero-time for people who break their friends’ trust. It’s naturally-harder telling people who are high in extraversion certain things because trust and privacy aren’t things they naturally-value as-much but at the end of the day you’ve got interpersonal responsibilities to live up to as a friend of someone, no matter what your natural personality would rather have you do by-default. Having a lively, talkative personality isn’t an excuse for breaking the trust of someone you’re supposed-to be a friend to.