[Cherry Christmas]

You didn't answer my question Liam, do you think parents or guardians should be contacted if students are skipping lessons or falling behind with their homework?

[Liam-]

Originally Posted by Cherie

You didn't answer my question Liam, do you think parents or guardians should be contacted if students are skipping lessons or falling behind with their homework?

Yes, because that is about school conduct and rules, contacting parents and outing kids to potentially abusive or negligent parents is a completely different thing, it’s none of the schools business what someone identifies as, as long as nobody is getting hurt or in danger, there is no excuse for a school to get involved so personally with a students life

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Liam-

Yes, because that is about school conduct and rules, contacting parents and outing kids to potentially abusive or negligent parents is a completely different thing, it’s none of the schools business what someone identifies as, as long as nobody is getting hurt or in danger, there is no excuse for a school to get involved so personally with a students life

The idea that a kid could be out and proud at school and it not get back to their parents is -- to be blunt -- absolute fantasy in the first place. School communities are small. If Jenny is Johnny at school, every parent in the catchment area is going to know about it within a couple of months, whether the teachers say anything about it or not. You can't "keep a secret" in a public setting and pretending to a kid that this is even possible is much riskier than being realistic and saying "if this is going to be a thing, your parents are going to know about it".

[Oliver_W]

Originally Posted by Liam-

it’s none of the schools business what someone identifies as, as long as nobody is getting hurt or in danger, there is no excuse for a school to get involved so personally with a students life

Do you think schools should keep all mental health issues secret?

[Christmas Lights]

Originally Posted by Liam-

Yes, because that is about school conduct and rules, contacting parents and outing kids to potentially abusive or negligent parents is a completely different thing, it’s none of the schools business what someone identifies as, as long as nobody is getting hurt or in danger, there is no excuse for a school to get involved so personally with a students life

How can you say it's non of the school's business?, If the parents were abusive or neglectful then the school would get involved in that aswell... So why do you think it's ok to keep parents in the dark over how kids identify?.

Parents & guardians usually need to be kept in the loop of their children's behaviour and progress at school it's important and it's safeguarding, if that Child is suffering with anxiety and depression at school should the teachers also keep that a secret??.

[Cherry Christmas]

Originally Posted by Liam-

Yes, because that is about school conduct and rules, contacting parents and outing kids to potentially abusive or negligent parents is a completely different thing, it’s none of the schools business what someone identifies as, as long as nobody is getting hurt or in danger, there is no excuse for a school to get involved so personally with a students life

Don't you think it would be better for schools to address this with the parents in a professional setting rather than them hearing it second hand? That way the parents reaction can be gauged and the school will be aware if there are issues at home due to the transition. Because trust me the parents will hear about it one way or the other

[Christmas Lights]

Originally Posted by Cherie

Don't you think it would be better for schools to address this with the parents in a professional setting rather than them hearing it second hand? That way the parents reaction can be gauged and the school will be aware if there are issues at home due to the transition. Because trust me the parents will hear about it one way or the other

Exactly

Secrets especially as big as this will find a way to get out ,and imagine the shock for the parents to find out via other ways.

[Liam-]

Originally Posted by Cherie

Don't you think it would be better for schools to address this with the parents in a professional setting rather than them hearing it second hand? That way the parents reaction can be gauged and the school will be aware if there are issues at home due to the transition. Because trust me the parents will hear about it one way or the other

By the time the reaction has been ‘gauged’ it’ll be too late, they still will have told potentially abusive, or neglectful parents something they can use against a child.

If they find out through other circumstances then yes, it’s difficult but it’ll happen eventually, a school has no right or basis to reveal irrelevant sensitive information about a student to anybody, unless they’re in danger, or being hurt in any way.

[Cherry Christmas]

Originally Posted by Liam-

By the time the reaction has been ‘gauged’ it’ll be too late, they still will have told potentially abusive, or neglectful parents something they can use against a child.

If they find out through other circumstances then yes, it’s difficult but it’ll happen eventually, a school has no right or basis to reveal irrelevant sensitive information about a student to anybody, unless they’re in danger, or being hurt in any way.

I find it troubling that you think its better for parents to find out by second hand means, rather than a discussion with another adult face to face about their child.

What do you think the parents will do once they hear it from outside sources....ring the school!!!! The scene is then set as the parent will be angry or upset that other people in school community knew before them, and the discussion will go downhill from there...the teachers hands were tied, but they will be in the firing line

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Cherie

The scene is then set as the parent will be angry or upset that other people in school community knew before them, and the discussion will go downhill from there...the teachers hands were tied, but they will be in the firing line

Agreed, as I said before I find the idea that a teen could be living a "double life" at school and it not get back to their parents more or less immediately very, very doubtful and if those parents do end up having issues, and then find out that the school kept information from them about their child, the trust is completely gone from that parent-school relationship and so anythignt he school could have done to support or help that child in their home environment is actually drastically reduced. The parents are not going to want to hear anything they have to say -- when they might have been able to help.