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Redway · 29-08-2024, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by GiRTh

You say she's lost the circle of friends but wasn't it just you who was barred. Will you not be going to that pub anymore? Thats such a shame.

As Annie said, complain to the franchise

Yeah. I definitely wouldn’t just leave it at that when I’ve done nothing wrong, even if I never drink there again.

thesheriff443 · 29-08-2024, 09:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Redway

Yeah. I definitely wouldn’t just leave it at that when I’ve done nothing wrong; even if I never drink there again.

The thing is with pubs and clubs
If the landlord land lady say they won’t serve you and wants you to leave you have to leave
They don’t even have to give you a reason that’s why they can tell members from the travailing community to leave and they do

GoldHeart · 29-08-2024, 09:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Kate!

No, she rang me up. I'll never see her again.

Kate why did you even answer her phone call

, people like that are dangerous....if they can switch at the drop of a hat ,amd start making false allegations.

I would steer clear of her , whether she's got mental issues or has shown her true colours...non of this is normal behaviour. And the bar staff/ manager sound just as bizarre , if anything you would think they'd ask both you & bingo lady to leave to ' keep the peace / be fair' .

It's not like you thumped her in the face or swore & shouted at the bar manager I assume?... otherwise it doesn't make much sense

. The bar manager sounds miserable , if this IS your local / regular place to have a drink & eat food.... shouldn't they know you're not usually a person who causes trouble? ... surely you must have been to this pub a few times ?,so they should know you.

Plus why didn't your other friends vouch for you ?. Or
didn't they want to get involved?.

Them taking bingo lady's side is either they fell for her tears or I'm guessing she's considerably older ?

...and that's played a part in them giving her all the sympathy. The whole innocent poor little old lady routine... just a thought?.

Cherie · 29-08-2024, 09:55 PM

Here is my take, the lady was a bit squiffy and got muddled
She shouldn't have involved the bar staff, it is nothing to do with them but she did, it sounds like she is sorry now she has sobered up, tbf Kate if its a first offence I would give her the benefit of the doubt, no one knows what her life is like and the weekly lunch might be a lifeline for her.

Now in regards to giving her 25.00, Kate your finances never seem to be stable so whilst it was very kind of you to give her that money, can you in all honesty afford to? You need to cut your cloth and manage your own finances, and let others manage theirs x Just my opinion of course

Vanessa · 29-08-2024, 10:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Cherie

Here is my take, the lady was a bit squiffy and got muddled
She shouldn't have involved the bar staff, it is nothing to do with them but she did, it sounds like she is sorry now she has sobered up, tbf Kate if its a first offence I would give her the benefit of the doubt, no one knows what her life is like and the weekly lunch might be a lifeline for her.

Now in regards to giving her 25.00, Kate your finances never seem to be stable so whilst it was very kind of you to give her that money, can you in all honesty afford to? You need to cut your cloth and manage your own finances, and let others manage theirs x Just my opinion of course

I would find it hard to forgive something like that. What if she did it again?

GoldHeart · 29-08-2024, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Cherie

Here is my take, the lady was a bit squiffy and got muddled
She shouldn't have involved the bar staff, it is nothing to do with them but she did, it sounds like she is sorry now she has sobered up, tbf Kate if its a first offence I would give her the benefit of the doubt, no one knows what her life is like and the weekly lunch might be a lifeline for her.

Now in regards to giving her 25.00, Kate your finances never seem to be stable so whilst it was very kind of you to give her that money, can you in all honesty afford to? You need to cut your cloth and manage your own finances, and let others manage theirs x Just my opinion of course

Actually you make a good point about alcohol, I wonder if the lady had been drinking quite a bit. I just assumed everyone was sober.

If booze wasn't the reason ,I'm not sure about giving bingo lady a second chance...what if this happens again ?.plus she got Kate barred from a pub. I mean it's not the end of the world... there's other pubs I assume, but I'd be annoyed if someone I thought was my friend got me barred from a place i like to go regularly.

I wonder if she feels bad ,hence her ringing Kate up .

Whether the lady is manipulative, has mental issues or has early on set dementia.... Who knows. If she's ever let back into the group of friends... I'd be very wary of her in future.

thesheriff443 · 29-08-2024, 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by GoldHeart

Actually you make a good point about alcohol, I wonder if the lady had been drinking quite a bit. I just assumed everyone was sober.

If booze wasn't the reason ,I'm not sure about giving bingo lady a second chance...what if this happens again ?.plus she got Kate barred from a pub. I mean it's not the end of the world... there's other pubs I assume, but I'd be annoyed if someone I thought was my friend got me barred from a place i like to go regularly.

I wonder if she feels bad ,hence her ringing Kate up .

Whether the lady is manipulative, has mental issues or has early on set dementia.... Who knows. If she's ever let back into the group of friends... I'd be very wary of her in future.

I know an old lady a few years back she rang me and said I was trying to kill her and I had been in her garden stealing stuff

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Redway · 29-08-2024, 11:09 PM

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Originally Posted by GoldHeart

Actually you make a good point about alcohol, I wonder if the lady had been drinking quite a bit. I just assumed everyone was sober.

If booze wasn't the reason ,I'm not sure about giving bingo lady a second chance...what if this happens again ?.plus she got Kate barred from a pub. I mean it's not the end of the world... there's other pubs I assume, but I'd be annoyed if someone I thought was my friend got me barred from a place i like to go regularly.

I wonder if she feels bad ,hence her ringing Kate up .

Whether the lady is manipulative, has mental issues or has early on set dementia.... Who knows. If she's ever let back into the group of friends... I'd be very wary of her in future.

That’s true. Alcohol is one hell of a drug.

Kate! · 30-08-2024, 01:35 AM

She hadn't been drinking, she doesn't drink.

Redway · 30-08-2024, 05:26 AM

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Originally Posted by GiRTh

SHe sounds quite manipulative.

Back to the incident, correct me if wrong. You gave her the money and a hour later she was telling the bar staff. Did anything happen between those two events? What do you believe she told the bar staff?

Enough porky beggars for one anti-Semitic lifetime.

GoldHeart · 30-08-2024, 06:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Kate!

She hadn't been drinking, she doesn't drink.

Is she a older person?

Cherie · 30-08-2024, 08:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Kate!

She hadn't been drinking, she doesn't drink.

okay well in that case I really dont know what to say, but it all revolved around money so my thoughts still stand, dont give money away that you can ill afford to

Kate! · 30-08-2024, 08:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Cherie

okay well in that case I really dont know what to say, but it all revolved around money so my thoughts still stand, dont give money away that you can ill afford to

Yes you're totally right, of course you are. She made me feel really sorry for her and I had the 25 pounds so I gave it freely. What can I say, I'm a soft touch.

I still don't want it back but I am going to return the 10 pounds she gave me as a treat and have a civil word with her next week sometime. I'll just tell her as politely as possible that she needs to own her actions etc, I don't know in all conscience how she did what she did but it was terrible for me and I'm really really disappointed and shocked by it all. I'll tell her that. Then I'll walk away.

Beso · 30-08-2024, 08:58 AM

Give us the pub and landlords name so we can all give it a bad review on trip adviser.

Kate! · 30-08-2024, 09:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Beso

Give us the pub and landlords name so we can all give it a bad review on trip adviser.

What, you think I'm that silly? Certain people on here hate me, they'd ring them up, nothing would surprise me.

Cherie · 30-08-2024, 09:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Kate!

Yes you're totally right, of course you are. She made me feel really sorry for her and I had the 25 pounds so I gave it freely. What can I say, I'm a soft touch.

I still don't want it back but I am going to return the 10 pounds she gave me as a treat and have a civil word with her next week sometime. I'll just tell her as politely as possible that she needs to own her actions etc, I don't know in all conscience how she did what she did but it was terrible for me and I'm really really disappointed and shocked by it all. I'll tell her that. Then I'll walk away.

I think that is a very sensible approach Kate x